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Hi all, hope all is well. I haven't been on here in awhile. I've been too busy wringing my hands over closing or not closing. Well, I made the decision and informed all but one family that I am indeed closing. Mostly it is because my dd is always sick no matter how closely the policy is followed or how much I clean. Also, I'm just tired and the money is not worth it. I want to have time to spend with my dd solo and to soak those memories up.
I have hesitated on informing the last family because I was considering keeping this part time dck. As far as work to dollar ratio, this dck's schedule is the best rate of pay for me compared to the others. I charge a flat rate regardless of time spent here. But it simply is not worth it.
Why?
Well...
Dck does not nap. Dck screams and cries when allowed to skip a nap unless Dck is being directly entertained and interacted with constantly by me. Nope Nope Nope!
Dck will stand at the door wailing for mommy and daddy. He will begin crying if he encounters a challenge like trying to get up on a child size chair and getting his foot stuck under his bottom. Exhausting. Sometimes dck dad remarks that dck was up at 6AM or earlier. dck is obviously tired, but is not taught to follow a schedule in the slightest. So I get a sleepy child for the day who screams and cries, who will not nap without being held, who is nearly a year and a half old! Oh, and still sucking a pacifier.
Let me say this: I get it. I set my ds up in the same way and I paid dearly for it. I coslept with him, taught him he needed pats to fall asleep, and held him constantly as an infant. Now at 4, he is on the better more independent path, but only after quite a bit of corrective steering. With my baby dd? Heck no! That baby naps on her own, sleeps on her own at night, and entertains herself. She is delightful and I am much more happy because of it.
I'm just so over it. Dcf do not set their children up for success in an environment where the children must be one of many instead of "the baby." These dcf have no concept of the struggle their child must endure in care and how confusing it is for the child. Or, they do understand how hard it is and simply shrug and figure, "that's the babysitter's problem." I'm glad I have thought so long and hard about the pros and cons of closing, because now I will be able to close guilt-free.
I have hesitated on informing the last family because I was considering keeping this part time dck. As far as work to dollar ratio, this dck's schedule is the best rate of pay for me compared to the others. I charge a flat rate regardless of time spent here. But it simply is not worth it.
Why?
Well...
Dck does not nap. Dck screams and cries when allowed to skip a nap unless Dck is being directly entertained and interacted with constantly by me. Nope Nope Nope!
Dck will stand at the door wailing for mommy and daddy. He will begin crying if he encounters a challenge like trying to get up on a child size chair and getting his foot stuck under his bottom. Exhausting. Sometimes dck dad remarks that dck was up at 6AM or earlier. dck is obviously tired, but is not taught to follow a schedule in the slightest. So I get a sleepy child for the day who screams and cries, who will not nap without being held, who is nearly a year and a half old! Oh, and still sucking a pacifier.
Let me say this: I get it. I set my ds up in the same way and I paid dearly for it. I coslept with him, taught him he needed pats to fall asleep, and held him constantly as an infant. Now at 4, he is on the better more independent path, but only after quite a bit of corrective steering. With my baby dd? Heck no! That baby naps on her own, sleeps on her own at night, and entertains herself. She is delightful and I am much more happy because of it.
I'm just so over it. Dcf do not set their children up for success in an environment where the children must be one of many instead of "the baby." These dcf have no concept of the struggle their child must endure in care and how confusing it is for the child. Or, they do understand how hard it is and simply shrug and figure, "that's the babysitter's problem." I'm glad I have thought so long and hard about the pros and cons of closing, because now I will be able to close guilt-free.
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