23MO Behavior

[GirlMomma]

I have a 23MO (turns two in a few weeks) girl that started with me almost six weeks ago. She was out about half of that time because she was getting acclimated to our germs.

She’s a pretty good kid but… she’s a crier. If I ask her to do anything, she cries about it! Something as simple as asking her to get down from the table makes her cry. She has no desire to play with other kids, she just watches them play. She’ll pick a spot and won’t budge from that spot, despite me and the older kids encouraging to join in. She won’t clean up unless I take her hands and help her pick up the toy with her. About the only things I can get her to do without crying is coloring, special movie time and eating.

Does she need more time to adjust or is it just not a good fit? I’ve had a couple of boys that take awhile to adjust and that’s okay - they’ve just cried at drop off and that was it. But the crying over everything all day long is making me crazy.

[Alwaysgreener]

I have 2 two year old girls that cry first and act later. I keep telling them to use their words. The boys don't cry, they hit first or at least try to. I've always only had boys so I'm adjusting to having a couple of girls now.

The older of the two girls is my shadow. Where I go she needs to go, she will sit and watch me make lunch. As long as she's content, not getting into trouble, and not crying, I just let her be and let her follow me. ( She has some major loss in her family so I think she needs to be with the adult to feel comfort, she is attached to my husband and to DS3 too)

[GirlMomma]

I’m used to all boys, too! I feel like they’re easier than girls 😂 My DD’s didn’t act like this at home or at daycare - to my knowledge of course.

I’ll try the shadow thing and give her more time.

[Valerie928]

I'd give it a little more time. Maybe this is her 1st time being around other kids with a routine?

[GirlMomma]

She was in DC before but was pulled for the winter since DCD is laid off.

[fivestarday]

I've got something similar going on with a 1.5 year old right now. Never used to be that way. But now she cries for what seems like all day long. I feel for you, GirlMomma!

[Valerie928]

I've got something similar going on with a 1.5 year old right now. Never used to be that way. But now she cries for what seems like all day long. I feel for you, GirlMomma!

I have a 14 month old that has become very difficult. Everything with her has always been super dramatic. Teething, eating, pooping, sleeping.......but now it's escalated the past month to where I dread her and her sister (almost 3) coming here.
I am 95% sure I am terming them at the end of this week. It's not worth it anymore and I feel like I am bending over backwards all day for them.

[fivestarday]

Valerie928, I really don't blame you one tiny bit. How much screeching and tears can you handle? It is draining to witness. And if both siblings are that way, my goodness!

Yesterday was better here, but still not how the toddler used to be. Dcg1.5y is here now. She has cried since drop off. I am so sweet to her, but her crying and yelling upsets dd10m. I have nearly a month left to endure. I thought about what dcg1.5y goes through, yesterday. She is dropped off first and picked up last. Her parents adore her, but they both work. She spends 8 hours a day in care and two hours with mom and dad in the evening before bed. She spends 2 hours in the morning with them before drop off. So 4 hours with the people who love her most (I imagine at least an hour total of that in the car) and 8 hours in care with me. If I were her, I'd be sad all the time too.

Everybody has a different lifestyle and culture. But I feel every day more strongly that staying home with my two kids is the best I could have offered them. It's priceless. Families who have two high-earning professional parents always make me scratch my head. Clearly, by the clothes, car, and vacations taken, enough money is made twice over to have the essentials and a bit extra, too. So to me, somebody, dad or mom, could stay home for a few years. Why spend 8 hours a day away from the greatest gift you've ever been given from above? I just don't understand it. Precious time. Fleeting. Dad or Mom could either stay home and soak that love up and be there for the child. But that's not the choice that is made. If they knew how sad their child was, would it change things? Who knows! None of my business! I just thank God I get to be here with mine.