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  • I think I have been lied too. Last Wednesday, dcm texted that she was sick and they (her and baby) had a fever. So she keep Dcg home and followed the 24 hour rule on Thursday.

    Then Sunday when I let everyone know that I didn't have power they didn't respond, I also had asked how baby was doing. So Monday I messaged again and dcd apologized for not responding but no mention on how dcm and Dcg was doing.

    ​​​​​​I was closed Monday and Tuesday for no power and opened today. Dcm came in and I asked how she was doing, she said she was sick from the second covid shot. She just had Covid at the beginning of October, so why did she get the shot (based on the 90 window of immunity, hers would be good until after Christmas)?

    Also, my rule is parents have to wear a mask in the house if they are not vaccinated And they don't wear a mask. I feel like dcd said they were vaccinated.

    Besides dcm getting a vaccine reaction doesn't explain why the baby was sick last week.

    Baby has missed time every month since she started in July due to being sick, something is going on with her.

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    • Originally posted by Alwaysgreener View Post
      she said she was sick from the second covid shot. She just had Covid at the beginning of October, so why did she get the shot (based on the 90 window of immunity, hers would be good until after Christmas)?

      Also, my rule is parents have to wear a mask in the house if they are not vaccinated And they don't wear a mask.
      Many employers are requiring full vaccination by a certain date. Perhaps she was following that protocol?
      Also if I am not mistaken, you have to get the second shot no later than 6 weeks after the first regardless of whether a person contracts COVID in between the two shots.

      Maybe you will have to just email the parents and ask specific questions about what's going in with the baby...

      I hate when parents over share but I hate it even more then they talk in circles.

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      • Alwaysgreener
        Alwaysgreener commented
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        She works from home.

        If you count back six weeks on the calendar, it just takes the first shot right after she recovered from COVID. Then dcd got covid, right after dcm recovered.

        Although It makes sense knowing their personalities that they would freak out and get the shot after coming down with Covid but if they put off getting the shot that long why rush? Lol

    • So let me get this straight....

      This new BBB plan will allow programs/providers to opt out of the new requirements but only those programs/providers that participate (adhere to the new requirements) will be allowed to accept families using government funding.

      ALL families that make less than $300,000 per year can receive some sort of government funding. (that's pretty much everyone that uses childcare)

      The new requirements state that lead teachers must have at MIN a bachelor's degree in early childhood or equiv,
      All programs must pay wages to employees/staff that are close to a teacher's current yearly salary.
      All programs/providers will be required to participate in their state's QRIS program. (We knew/predicted this on this board years ago!)

      Basically from what I am hearing, independently owned and operated in home family daycares and privately owned centers can still operate like they always have (following state licensing rules etc) but the clientele that use them can't use funding from CCDBG and will have to pay out of pocket.

      ....and since almost ALL families in the U.S. will qualify for child care funding assistance under this plan, WHO exactly will be using child care they have to pay for out of their own pockets?!?!

      SMH.

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      • Originally posted by Blackcat31 View Post
        .

        ....and since almost ALL families in the U.S. will qualify for child care funding assistance under this plan, WHO exactly will be using child care they have to pay for out of their own pockets?!?!

        SMH.
        The same ones who are pulling their kids out of public schools in record numbers due to no trust in the system.

        They can't keep kids safe, close constantly, ignore illness and they push agendas constantly.

        We all know exactly how those rooms will be run.

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        • Blackcat31
          Blackcat31 commented
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          I know there will be a small amount of families that will not be okay with government child care but they will be few and far between.
          I don't think there will be enough of them to support family child cares that opt not to play by the government rules.
          Many of the families in my area that are unhappy with public schools and pull their children out are also the type to not really believe in having someone else raise their child either so they tend to stay home and take care of their own kids verses needing to work as their focus is quality parenting and not so much the material things others crave. Basically the pool of parents that won't take free won't be enough to keep all little guys (us) in business.

        • Alwaysgreener
          Alwaysgreener commented
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          Senator Blackburn says that this BBB is going to prevent grandma from taking care of her grandkids.

        • GirlMomma
          GirlMomma commented
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          Alwaysgreener I feel like that is the dumbest reason. Is Grandma unable to just say no?? LOL

      • My family is very large and some years we have many funerals, some years none. Anyway, I texted all my parents this morning and told them the plans were to bring my uncle home with hospice care however things had rapidly declined today therefore heads up for a possible closing next week for a funeral (mind you I'm only open three days mon-wed anyway) ....only ONE didn't respond so when they picked up I told dcd that dcm didn't respond and he asked what the text was so I told him and with a grimace he said she didn't respond because the last time YOU (me) did this, they took her to work with them and it was disaster when they had no 'school' to take her to....I DID NOT RESPOND! I clarify in interview the importance of family and how large my family is and how some years nothing happens and some years are rough.

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        • Annalee
          Annalee commented
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          He is still hanging on and his immediate family has been able to stay in the room with him which I am thankful for per the covid protocol I was afraid he would be alone. . We were with him last week for his 80th birthday so I'm at peace as he has struggled for some time with cancer.

        • e.j.
          e.j. commented
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          "The last time YOU did this..."?! Wow! The dc parents' problem isn't that they had no school to take their kid to, it's that neither of them have any CLASS! They sound self-involved and incredibly rude.

          I'm sorry your uncle is so ill and that you and your family are going through such a tough time. It is such a blessing that he's able to have his immediate family with him. I hope you all can take some comfort in that.

        • Blackcat31
          Blackcat31 commented
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          Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers

      • Originally posted by Blackcat31 View Post
        So let me get this straight....

        This new BBB plan will allow programs/providers to opt out of the new requirements but only those programs/providers that participate (adhere to the new requirements) will be allowed to accept families using government funding.

        ALL families that make less than $300,000 per year can receive some sort of government funding. (that's pretty much everyone that uses childcare)

        The new requirements state that lead teachers must have at MIN a bachelor's degree in early childhood or equiv,
        All programs must pay wages to employees/staff that are close to a teacher's current yearly salary.
        All programs/providers will be required to participate in their state's QRIS program. (We knew/predicted this on this board years ago!)

        Basically from what I am hearing, independently owned and operated in home family daycares and privately owned centers can still operate like they always have (following state licensing rules etc) but the clientele that use them can't use funding from CCDBG and will have to pay out of pocket.

        ....and since almost ALL families in the U.S. will qualify for child care funding assistance under this plan, WHO exactly will be using child care they have to pay for out of their own pockets?!?!

        SMH.
        I'm coming in sideways on this.....what are you talking about , BC?

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        • Annalee
          Annalee commented
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          Now I've read more and it appears educators will NOT be able to charge but must accept what the subsidy rate is based on a tiered format......now that is opening a keg of worms....

        • Blackcat31
          Blackcat31 commented
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          Yes, that is also another component of this issue. Accepting subsidy and NOT charging anything above the co-pay. Also QRIS will be mandatory but from my understanding it will become more regulated and of course stricter in regards to rules and requirements. I don't think there will be many providers that will want to participate if the requirements become so strict. It just sounds like it will be a whole bunch of over regulation for so many and if it becomes too much, they'll throw in the towel and the only options families will have will be "free" and in my opinion the "free" option will be very institutionalized.

        • Annalee
          Annalee commented
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          Well, I think my state should be good at over-regulation; we've been mandated since 2000 with QRIS....LOL QRIS is still here but in a different format! and even though stringent, getting rid of the FCCER-R book makes us feel so relieved! THere are still negative issues out there that I see now after reading all of this information but still wonder how they could ever HOUSE all the kids with this BBB plan....just can't see it falling into place with the plan the government has! Housing prek will be a disaster as the schools are overcrowded as it is. No one uses head start here anymore! Just my thoughts.

      • How do I word this again?

        The newest DCF, both teachers, let me know that DCB (M and W only) attended Monday but will not be here today or next Wednesday when I am open. (Assuming he would have come Monday if I was going to be open.)

        I am closed on Monday to Observe Christmas. Per my handbook, I am closed on Christmas Eve (12/23), Christmas Day (12/27), and the day after (I did not take) all paid and any day that falls on a weekend can be moved to Monday or Thursday to Observe.

        They sent payment for next week and only paid half (plus $3). I am not sure if they are thinking they are paying only for the Holiday/Monday or for the day he is not attending/Wednesday. So I am not sure how to word the text.

        Ugh.

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        • GirlMomma
          GirlMomma commented
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          “Hey DCP! I noticed you only sent $xxx for payment next week. With Monday being a paid holiday, I am assuming DCK not be here next Wednesday?”

        • Alwaysgreener
          Alwaysgreener commented
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          GirlMomma Thank you, message sent.

        • Alwaysgreener
          Alwaysgreener commented
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          They paid.

      • I am so restless lately. I am finding myself so annoyed with some of these kids and their entitlement.

        "Meltdown Maggie" (age 2.5 yrs) comes in every morning and tries to head into the big kid room. She knows full well she isn't allowed in there as she is still in diapers and she isn't 3 yet. When I steer her into her regular room, she goes limp and starts sobbing. She will then ask for a movie. We don't watch movies in that room and we don't really watch movies much at all so of course when I say "no movie" she sobs some more. Once she is in her regular room, she will sit on the floor and direct the other kids to bring her toys and will spend a majority of the morning in tears because she doesn't have ALL the toys or because another child failed to follow her commands. Her name isn't Maggie but Meltdown Maggie has become what my DH and I call her.

        "Cookie" (who will be 4 two days after Christmas) spends a majority of her day singing at the top of her lungs. She is adamant that she is the only one that gets to sing. If anyone else dares sing along with her or sing at all, she will try to cover their mouths and sternly tell them they can NOT sing because she is singing. I made the mistake yesterday of telling her I wasn't going to tell her again that she needed to be kind to her friends because when I reminded her of it a-g-a-i-n, she immediately says "You said you weren't going to tell me again". Soooo hoping she is a handful for her parents all through her pre-teen and teen years because currently any mention of her negative behavior during the day at pick up and DCM immediately asks me if I am feeling okay I feel great...just annoyed that you think she's so cute, she can do no wrong.

        "Boo" (3 yrs old) burns more calories during one rest time than she does during outdoor time all week combined and almost always loses her "rest time" reward. She's relentless though and will tell me every day at pick up that I forgot to get her rest time reward; thus making me explain for the umpteenth time that she didn't earn one to which she replies "That's okay, I will just go home and get a treat/movie/sticker". ...and she will because according to DCD, they've given up the fight because it's just too hard. Both parents openly say they won't/can't/don't really discipline her for anything because...wait for it...... they don't like it when she cries.

        "Bossy Bess" (will be 5 in Jan 2022) has become horrid after a day off. She used to attend 5 days but G-ma takes her and her sister one day a week now so she's only here 4 days now. Every time she returns after her day with G-ma she will have an absolutely terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day because the rest of us dared have fun or do X or Y with out her. Yesterday one of the other girls told her we had X for snack the day before (her absent day) and she pouted the entire afternoon because she wanted that snack AND the snack were currently having. When I said no, she could eat what I was serving or eat nothing. She opted for nothing because and I quote "am not the boss of her".

        If I hear, "You're not my best friend", "You're not coming to my birthday" or "I'm telling my mom on you" ONE more time, I will literally lose my marbles.

        two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days, two more days

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        • e.j.
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          Sounds like you have quite the crew there! lol Hang in! Christmas break is almost here!!

        • Rockgirl
          Rockgirl commented
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          There’s so much drama with girls! And you have a lot of them. 🥴

        • GirlMomma
          GirlMomma commented
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          Girls are so much drama!!! 😂

      • My dd and ds are sick. DD is starting to feel better but DS has a fever now.

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        • GirlMomma
          GirlMomma commented
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          I hope they’re feeling better! It’s going around like crazy!

      • I’ve been closed all week. I had some business things to take care of, but ultimately my main goal was to potty train DD2. She turned 2 in late August. I forgot how difficult this was and I’m ready to give up 😩

        She’s shown all the signs. She’s dry for hours on end, she can dress/undress herself and she is capable of washing her hands. The only thing I think shes missing is the going when she has to go part, which I was hoping she’d pick up along the way. We started yesterday, straight from diapers to training (the thicker cloth) underwear. It was going pretty well! She had accidents but after the accident she’d say, “Oh! Gotta potty!” she’d already be wet but I know that’s part of it and she’d catch on.

        Today, she was dry all morning, but wouldn’t potty. She ended up having an accident before lunch so I put her in a Pull-up for nap. Before I put her down for nap, I was taking her to the potty… not realizing she pooped. It went everywhere because it was solid. 🤦🏻‍♀️

        Today, she has been so whiney. It’s driving me nuts and I’m losing my patience. Of course I’ve tried to maintain composure. I’m hoping after she naps we will both feel better.

        I’m not sure if I’m rushing the potty thing or if I’m just spent today because of her attitude.

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        • Well you have gotten farther than me. Lol DS 3.5, I was planning on giving potty training my attention while I was closed for five days. Here is how it went. Day one DD ended up so sick that my focus was on her. When my dh got home I ran to the store for last minute things. When I got home ds had passed out and had a fever. The next morning I woke up with a full blown sinus infection, DD was still sick and DS was recovering. I ended up closing Tuesday and I didn't get my energy back until then.

          The kids both ended up testing negative.

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          • GirlMomma
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            I think it is too soon. I don’t think she’s quiet grasped that she can control it.

        • I hate nothing more than chasing money.

          I have a client that comes every other week and will pay for both weeks upfront. That’s our contract. I was closed last week, the week the client usually comes. I didn’t charge for last week, but payment was still due yesterday for this week. They will owe three weeks worth of pay on Monday or be behind a week, which isn’t the agreement. Not sure if I should email the client or not. My husband says I shouldn’t because it’s not my responsibility.

          The client I recently increased the base rate for hasn’t paid this week at all. Now with late fees, that’s significantly more than what they’re used to. If I don’t see payment by closing today, I plan to email that I can’t accept the child tomorrow unless all fees are paid.

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          • e.j.
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            "My husband says I shouldn’t because it’s not my responsibility."
            I agree that it isn't your responsibility but it is your paycheck. If you're concerned that she won't bring the money or that what she brings won't be enough to cover the 3 weeks she owes, I would send a reminder. It won't hurt and will only take a few seconds to send a quick reminder. If it were me, I'd head off the problem before it has the chance to happen rather than deal with it in the morning.

          • GirlMomma
            GirlMomma commented
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            e.j. Totally agree

        • We've had that problem with some of our old clients and it got so bad that the owner literally put a note on the door of the center & the parent board that stated that the following people owed money and if it wasn't paid then they couldn't come back. We got money from a few of them but the rest refused to pay and they lost a lot of money because of that. What they owed even included late fees to
          Christy Sewell

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          • GirlMomma
            GirlMomma commented
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            YIKES! Why didn’t they stop accepting the child?? I tell all my parents in the interview that it’s due Monday by 5:30 or a late fee is charged and if it’s not paid by closing on Tuesday, they can’t return until tuition and late fees are paid in full. I didn’t get totally “burned” but I had a family that paid me late for months until I finally put my foot down. I learned from that and I won’t go through that again!

          • Annalee
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            I charge $10 per day per child when payment is late; amazing how all can pay on time now. LOL
            Last edited by Annalee; 01-04-2022, 03:28 PM.

        • Um where are my snow plow people that i hired for the winter?? Its definitely more than 2in out there…whats the point of having a contract with a company if i still have to go out and shovel. Gr!

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          • e.j.
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            Right?! I have the same problem when it snows here. I hired the guy who plows our driveway because he said he could do it early enough so the dc families could get in and out at both drop off and pick up times. That's not what's happened in previous years. I had a hard enough time finding this guy so I don't dare "fire" him unless/until I can find someone else. So far, we've had very little snow this winter so it hasn't been an issue for me yet but I definitely empathize with you!

        • Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post
          YIKES! Why didn’t they stop accepting the child?? I tell all my parents in the interview that it’s due Monday by 5:30 or a late fee is charged and if it’s not paid by closing on Tuesday, they can’t return until tuition and late fees are paid in full. I didn’t get totally “burned” but I had a family that paid me late for months until I finally put my foot down. I learned from that and I won’t go through that again!
          I'm with you, I don't understand why they didn't quit accepting the children when this happened but I think this is the reason plus some others as to why they want to sell the center but the ones that owed were either on CMA (Childcare payment assistance) or self paid.

          Our policy then and still is today as follows:
          1. Payment is due when the child comes Monday or their first day of care for the week.
          ​​​​2. If it's longer then a day or two they get $5.00 added on for late fees
          3. If they are CMA and are sick then they must bring in a doctors note and then we send it to CMA to get payment & if they are self paid and they bring a doctors note then they get 1/2 pay for the week.
          4. If they are also at the center for a year then they get a week vacation
          Christy Sewell

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          • GirlMomma
            GirlMomma commented
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            Those are reasonable policies! Hopefully that helped clean it up!
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