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  • This was put in all the teachers boxes yesterday because we've got a few new teachers plus we've been having problems. Where did the common sense go???? Click image for larger version

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    Last edited by Springvalley; 08-03-2022, 05:39 PM.
    Christy Sewell

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    • dcb3.5 parent tells me she is so happy as he slept in his own bed for first time last night

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      • That.one.child. The one with the voice that grates on my nerves and of course talks more than everyone else put together.
        Nice kid, clean, well mannered, plays nicely with the others etc.... but the voice. Some days I simply can't.

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        • e.j.
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          I had a dcg a few years ago who I thought of as my "Sour Patch Kid" - super sweet one minute but oh, so sour the next! I don't think I could have loved that kid any more than if she were my own!
          She was also one of the most gorgeous kids I've ever seen - petite, blonde, face of an angel... but when she whined (and she whined A LOT!), her voice reminded me so much of the baby duck, "Little Quacker" from the Tom and Jerry cartoons. At first, it made me laugh a little to myself every time I heard it and it at least got me past the irritation of hearing her whine over every little thing. Despite that, it definitely began to grate on me. She left a couple of years ago when her family moved out of state and I still miss her. Every now and then, though, I swear I can still hear that little quacky voice in my head.

      • Dcf went out of the country for 3 weeks. Returns and covid positive.
        curious how that is MY fault since they haven’t been at daycare 🤔. I do feel bad that their work only lets them have max 5 covid/sick days but not sure how that means I have to break health department guidelines to allow a child Back.

        ive been calm and agreeing that it sucks. But then part of me wants to remind them that they chose to travel and they should have realized it was a risk 🤷‍♀️

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        • e.j.
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          Yup! I don't really care where or how they pick up the virus; they need to stay out of my daycare until they test negative. I feel for anyone who doesn't have enough sick time at work to cover time out for Covid or any other contagious illness but that really isn't my problem to take on. My job is to try to protect the other kids in care and their families as well as my own family members.

      • Second day in a row, the new family brings DCK in with a full diaper, right at my opening time. Supposedly it was dry when they left their house, which 2 mins from my house.

        DCP brings in DCK1.99 with a stuffed animal the size of the child and a pacifier in his mouth. Again, I hand it all back to the parent.

        New DCK3 will wash her hands BEFORE going to the bathroom… not after. Which means I’m sanitizing door knobs and light switches 3-4x/day, despite me reminding her when she goes in. I don’t get it.

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        • I have a 3 yr old that has spent a LONG time "potty training". I say that loosely because we all know what that means... They started here in May. Wore pull ups as DCM said they were just starting to understand using the toilet. Tried having child get in line with the others for our regular toilet breaks but never had any luck. I didn't put too much thought into it as most parents don't listen to advice anyways so I just made sure child had the opportunity to use toilet frequently and was always changed when wet or soiled.

          FF to end of summer and still nothing. Child doesn't even acknowledge if they are or aren't wet/soiled. Will say no when I ask if they are wet when I can clearly see the Pull up looks like it weighs more than the kid does.

          Lately DCM has been putting underwear on first and then the Pull up. Monday, the child has a nasty BM and of course changing them is now more complicated (gross) but I bag up the soiled undies and send them home. Use Pull ups without underwear the rest of the day. Tuesday...same exact thing.

          This morning DCM comes in and says to child "Bye, love you...have a good day! Go get in line for the potty so you can start your day!" Child gets in line with the other kids.
          I notice the slightly brown half moon shapes forming on the child's shorts as they are waiting in line. I say "DCK are you poopy or wet?" Also ask "Do you need a new Pull up?"
          Child says no to both. *sigh I take them into the bathroom and change them... (gag) thinking its way to early in the morning for this... it's seriously crusted to the child's butt.
          Bag up the soiled underwear.... they are the thick padded trainer type so I doubt DCM is tossing them out and is having to wash them. Bleh! Cloth diapers would be a better alternative at this point.

          Tired of talking to DCM, I'd have better luck talking to the cashier at Target. I've had so many convos with her about it that I give up. There is always an excuse or the ever popular "Well at home....." so I decided I will just change child FREQUENTLY through out the day and skip asking them to use the toilet (never had any success. ever.
          Child carries around a 32 oz sippy cup every second they aren't in daycare, maybe the cost of Pull ups will get DCM's attention better than I was able to.

          I don't care if a child is using the toilet or not. I have zero issues changing anyone in diapers but I do have issues continually having to discuss progress that is non-existent and being asked daily for advice that isn't taken. Pull up's hold NOTHING so I estimate this child will go through approximately 10 of them a day. Stock was resupplied this morning.
          Let's see how this approach works out.

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          • GirlMomma
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            Going thru this with a long term client now. When I first opened, I potty trained big sibling. Not planned at all. DCM asked me on a Friday if I thought the older sibling was ready. I told her no, the child wasn’t at all. FF to Monday, DCD brings DCK in underwear. One pair. It took an entire year for me to PT that child & teach him how to wash his hands because I realized it was only being worked on here… as these kids are raised by me 10 hours a day M-F and grandma on the weekends. This client is the reason I implemented the “Ms. GirlMomma doesn’t PT” policy a few months ago. I wasn’t going thru it again.

            Now with their youngest DCB2.99, I see DCD will send him in a Pull-up and tell him “Make sure you tell Ms. GirlMomma you need to go!” I take him when he says he has to go, nothing happens. When he’s clearly wet, I’ll ask him if he’s wet and he says no. IMO, he’s not ready.

            I’m glad I got a little wiser and put the PT responsibility back on the parents.

          • Momboss
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            Pull ups are for the child who MIGHT have an accident. Not to be used as a diaper! And the underwear thing would not fly with me. A truly potty trained child wouldnt go in the pullup and wouldnt need to feel underwear to be encouraged not to go in his pants. Super gross and time consuming.

          • MissCait
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            I’ve done the exact same thing before.

        • We started our classes this week and we've had several new kids start, one kid that started goes to church with me and is in the 3 year old room, (the teacher that teaches that room is the one I wrote about that's retired & working so many days a week) so anyway her teacher claims she doesn't listen or if she does listen she does right the opposite of what she's suppose to do ( example tell the kids to sit down on the carpet and she goes to the table to sit etc). I told her teacher today she does great in church etc and she doesn't do this and she states well maybe she needs to go to Sunday school where she will learn to sit down! I told another teacher after she made that comment that maybe she's getting too much info at one time and it's confusing her. The teacher gets wind of it and states that I said that she was confusing the kid which is NOT what I said at all and I told her exactly what I told the other teacher and she proceeded to tell me that I'm a liar and she was upset at what I said and that I don't need to tell anyone about what she said because she's afraid it would get back to the parents and that if they don't like it here then maybe they need to stay home with the kid!
          Christy Sewell

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          • Annalee
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            Center work is hard; I"m a high-strung, passionate about my work person and when I worked center back in late 80's early 90's that is why I quit....too many people make perceptions about how I did/didn't do things.......child care is unique and it's hard work so I didn't take suggestions;criticism/etc. back then well either.


            AND STILL DON'T LOL

            FYI.....I want to clarify this so I don't sound MEAN.....child care is unique whether center or family child care. But in Family Child Care, I can control MY business and child care part. This is hard for center owners/employees to unify on BOTH business and child care practices. I respected that so I QUIT. I can do both now, as I please!
            Last edited by Annalee; 08-17-2022, 10:38 AM.

        • Not daycare related, but last year i had an interview with the census people. They mentioned within 8 months they would be back. Well last night the Census Guy came to my house at 7:30pm and rang the doorbell five times, then knocked, then he stood there for 5 min. I feel like that’s excessive. I ignored it because i was already in bed (long day lol). Just assume the person isn’t home or wants to be left alone. There could be many reasons why I’m not answering my door. Or again I could just not be home so why the hell do you keep ringing the doorbell. Imagine if I was really sick trying to sleep and I had to hear the doorbell ring five times. Or trying to put a baby to sleep. Geesh!

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          • My friend in the HVAC industry said that prices will be going up 30-50 percent due to regulations.

            "Beginning in 2023, every heating and air conditioning company in the United States can no longer install an air conditioning unit with a SEER rating of 13 or less. The new federal regulation means all ACs we install will be SEER 14 or higher."

            He said if you are close to due, do it fast.
            Last edited by Cat Herder; 08-22-2022, 08:21 AM.

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            • GirlMomma
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              I have no idea what SEER is… My husband is done with HVAC school next May LOL

            • Annalee
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              I wonder about these mitsibishi single-room wall units everyone is using now??

            • Cat Herder
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              I just had mine replaced a few years ago, so I have not researched it, yet. Thought I'd pass it along so you guys can research it, too, if it applies to you. Budget planning and all that. I am in the roof replacement planning stage...yay me

          • Originally posted by Cat Herder View Post
            My friend in the HVAC industry said that prices will be going up 30-50 percent due to regulations.

            "Beginning in 2023, every heating and air conditioning company in the United States can no longer install an air conditioning unit with a SEER rating of 13 or less. The new federal regulation means all ACs we install will be SEER 14 or higher."

            He said if you are close to due, do it fast.
            we had a mistsibishi unit placed in the daycare room a few years ago so?? I think I will ask about that. I think my large central unit should be good as I have a year left on my warranty for parts/labor?

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            • Annalee
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              and i did not mean to quote that....sorry about that.....thought I hit the comment button?
              Last edited by Annalee; 08-22-2022, 11:00 AM.

            • Cat Herder
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              No worries. I had issues using the forum correctly today, too. Re-learning how to do things gets harder over time. lol!!

          • I have been having a week and it’s only Tuesday 🙃 DCG21 months will NOT nap this week and it wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t the most obnoxiously loud child in the group. She has never been a good napper but she usually will sleep for at least an hour or two. I am giving her one more day and if she doesn’t nap, I’m telling mom she needs to figure it out or find new care because she is preventing everyone else from napping and then I have a bunch of cranky toddlers.

            I also rotated in some new toys this week and every time I do I have a DCG2.75 that says “that’s mine!!!” Over every. Single. One. All day. I am constantly telling her “no, those are not yours, they are to share. If you cannot share then you cannot play with it.” Today it was over a HUGE bucket of wooden blocks and if anyone even touches one of the blocks she SCREAMS. After a few days the newness wears off and she doesn’t care but the first few days I have stopped letting her play with the new toys after the first hour because she will freak out so much.

            also if anyone has any words of advice, my DS is 11mo and has started hitting constantly and no amount of redirecting or reminders of gentle hands (he does know this phrase) seems to matter. He laughs when we tell him no or redirect him and then goes right back to it.

            To top it all off everyone has a nasty cold so I am wiping snotty noses all day and I started school back this week and I stayed up too late doing homework trying to get ahead so I overslept until 6:44 this morning and my first child arrived at 6:47. 🫣

            is it Friday yet?!

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            • MissCait
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              I’m sorry! You’re having a rough week!!

              As far as your son goes, it’s pretty normal. He’s learning cause and reaction basically. And he’s having a little fun with it. You just keep correcting and redirecting and it seems like it’s not working, but it is. Eventually he will just stop as he develops more understanding.

            • BaileeB
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              GirlMomma thank you!

              MissCait it’s awful because his favorite person to hit is the 5 month old 🤦‍♀️ He crawls around on the floor and I think my son thinks he is like the cat and dog because he wants to pet him and then he gets excited and tried to hit him. With his bare hands and with toys 🙈 DH gets very upset with him and I’ve been trying to explain to him that the negative reaction is still a reaction and DS just thinks the attention is good and he laughs. I’m trying to use a neutral tone and just say “no. Gentle hands please” and then move him somewhere else if he continues. Usually after the third time he gets mad when he is moved away and decides to go do something else. So I see the progress we are making it’s just been sooooo slow

            • MissCait
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              BaileeB


              Yea your husbands reaction does make it worse unfortunately. You can also take his hand and physically show him what gentle is, while saying gentle. I’ve found that to well too. It still takes time though for them to outgrow it. Both of my kids were meaner to the other kids all of the time. Your kids will always act worse it seems. They grow out of it, but good gosh, 2 and 3 yo is tough when they are your kids and they have to share you every day.
              Last edited by MissCait; 08-23-2022, 04:22 PM.

          • I open at 7:30. DCM pulls in at 7:36. They live 3 mins from my house.

            DCM: You may want to check (potty trained) DCG. I think she trusted a fart, she smells really bad. *proceeds to rush out the door*



            The child didn’t have anything in her pants, it was just a fart.

            Now I guess I’ll update my drop off policy to something like “If you drop a child off in soiled pants, you will change them before you leave.” 🙄
            Last edited by GirlMomma; 4 weeks ago.

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            • Blackcat31
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              lol! I’d rather just change the kid and have the parent leave pronto! I hate the song/dance parents put on when addressing their child’s needs 🙄
              Of course what comes around goes around and sometimes a kid will get picked up and have a dirty diaper… if that happens which is rarely but it happens and if it does I just say “Better hurry home!” 😂

            • Blackcat31
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              Truthfully, I would just talk to the parent that did this and let them k ow you don’t appreciate them dumping a soiled child off and running and that the next time you
              expect them to send them clean and ready to go just as you do at the end of the day.

            • GirlMomma
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              Blackcat31 I don’t want parents hanging out either. I’ll probably just talk to her at pick up today.

              Parents have always expected me to change the child’s soiled diaper if it happens right before pick up. I always show them the changing table and hand them supplies. If the parent is here, I feel it’s their responsibility 🤷‍♀️

          • Not sure if this is a vent or what but I pressure washed some things yesterday and 'this ole gray mare just aint what she used to be'.....got more to do after daycare today but???? Happy to be accomplishing things but the tylenol is rolling this morning.

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            • Blackcat31
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              I hear ya! I am pretty sure my head and my body stopped communicating a few years ago as my head thinks I am still in my 30 but my body seems to disagree. lol!
              Good to stay active and busy though outside of daycare. It definitely helps in the long run I am sure! Hoping you aren't too sore.

          • 5 little girls. All singing "Let it go". All on different verses. NONE of them actually know any of the words



            Can someone please come pick me up. I don't like it here anymore. The natives are restless and it's getting way too musical for my liking.

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            • Cat Herder
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              I can send a car, but it's poopapalooza, here, so.....

          • I've posted about this DCM here before but I haven't yet grown a pair enough to term so for now I will keep complaining. LOL
            So I posted about how DCG22 months will NOT nap. I finally talked to DCM because she will also not be quiet and she will not stay on her cot. DCM always goes on and on about how she sleeps fine on the weekends in her PITCH BLACK COMPLETELY SILENT room. I have explained I CANNOT do that here.
            I explained to DCM that maybe she should try to get her used to sleeping when its not completely dark or perhaps she is getting TOO much sleep at night because DCM puts her to bed at 6:30pm and she gets her up around 6am. She used to sleep at least an hour when she first started 2 months ago. Now, nothing.
            DCM replies "well, I'm fine with her going into the other room and not napping if shes keeping the other kids up. Like, she can go wherever you keep the other little babies who arent napping. Or you could try to lay her in the infant nap room by herself. and you could put her in a pack n play."
            OKAY NO. #1, she is almost 2 and she is a BIG girl so I am not going to deal with her climbing out of a pack n play. #2. the infant nap room is for the INFANTS to NAP and they cannot nap if her loud kid is in there. #3. I get about 20 minutes on a good day where all of the children are asleep at the same time and I can have a break. #4. I keep the infants in the living room of my home while the older kids nap in the playroom. The living room has limited space and I have infants in there so I do not need her running around in there. There is not enough room to really provide entertainment or keep her occupied for the 2.5-3 hours while the others nap. #5. Why are you okay with your not-even-two year old not napping all day???
            Basically, she does not want to deal with her kid anymore than she has to so she picks her up at 4, has dinner at 5 and puts her to bed by 6:30 so she doesnt have to see her. If she moves bedtime back then she would have to SPEND TIME with her child. Which is really just horrible since, ya know, she chose to have a kid.

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            • GirlMomma
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              She does need to move bedtime back to about 8/8:30. That worked best for my DD now 3.

              I would tell her you’re going to start calling her for pick-up if she can’t nap/lay quietly. You’ve dealt with it long enough.

            • BaileeB
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              @GirlMomma
              She napped today for almost 2.5 hours. That NEVER happens. Either she is getting sick or DCM decided to move bedtime back like I suggested (but she would never admit it that she listened to what I told her to do especially since it worked.)
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