The Venting Thread

[e.j.]

We’ve been watching Madagascar for the last hour.

DCB5: *tearing up and whining* Ms. GM, I don’t want to watch this movie.

This kid does this EVERY time we have a movie day! The last time when did this, I called his parents for pick-up because it turned into a full on meltdown. When DCM arrived, she wanted to talk about his “big feelings” in my foyer.

Oh, brother I can't say I blame the kid for not wanting to watch the movie, though. I sat through Madagascar once and I almost started tearing up and whining, too! lol As my brother-in-law likes to say, "That's 2 hours of my life I'll never get back!" Hopefully the other kids liked it enough that it gave you somewhat of a break.

[GirlMomma]

It’s not my favorite either! 😂 But he does this to manipulate his parents… it works for them 🙄

[e.j.]

Yeah...I've had that kid. Not fun. My eyes got a workout from all the rolling they did when I watched him and his parents in action. lol

[littlefriends]

I’m so tired of this dcm carrying her oversized 2yr old in every morning and trying to hand him to me. He’s huge and way too old to be getting carried up and handed to me. She also tries every single morning to wedge herself around me as I am standing there purposefully blocking her from coming inside. The few times she manages to get me pushed aside she tries to take an hour to take his coat off and baby talk to him while he’s screaming, freaking out that she put him down.

[Alwaysgreener]

So my dd had some friends over. Yesterday was her friend from 3rd grade that transferred to the other elementary, her parents are very prompt and have no trouble with them remembering anything.


Then her other friend was supposed to come over to spend the night at 5. I texted and mom forgot, she said they would come after dinner. They came 2 hours later, the girls had to get PJ on right away. Mom was supposed to pick up at 2ish. (my fault for saying ish) Just before 2, she sent a text saying 30 min. It is almost 3 and she just sent a text "omw" I told DH that it would have been better if he would agree to take her home.

This is not the first opps, that was on the first time that she came over, we got her directly from school and basically kidnapped her. Mom was supposed to call the school but forgot. Then in a panic texted to see if I had her. The next time the younger sister reminded her to call the school. Another time she came for a sleepover, and they forgot to bring/pack her overnight bag and had to bring it back, it was after 8 when they came back. My dd wonders why I will not let her spend the night over there. I blame it on her selective mute for now.

[Cat Herder]

I’m so tired of this dcm carrying her oversized 2yr old in every morning and trying to hand him to me. He’s huge and way too old to be getting carried up and handed to me. She also tries every single morning to wedge herself around me as I am standing there purposefully blocking her from coming inside. The few times she manages to get me pushed aside she tries to take an hour to take his coat off and baby talk to him while he’s screaming, freaking out that she put him down.

I fully understand. I love theses signs, they help tremendously.

[Annalee]

I LOVE these signs, CH!!! I have some signs but not near as good as these. LOL

[littlefriends]

The kiss and go one!!! 🤣

[littlefriends]

Not a good sign…new kiddo starting on Mon and his mom texts me this morning “Hi! I know you said you open at 7 but I was wondering if I could bring him 6:30ish Mon am since it’s his first day?” I replied with a simple “no”. 🙄🤦♀️

[Rockgirl]

Sounds like mom was planning on hanging around the first 30 minutes. Nope!

[littlefriends]

I know it’s stupid but I take off holidays paid if they fall on a weekday only. I did just amend my contract and send it out today to include weekend days so that I can get paid to take off the Fri or Mon.
And Yes! I think she was planning on hanging out to make sure he was fine and not freaking out or something! No way. I’m supposed to open half an hour early so she can sit on my couch? There’s not enough coffee in the world for that!

[Cat Herder]

Not a good sign…new kiddo starting on Mon and his mom texts me this morning “Hi! I know you said you open at 7 but I was wondering if I could bring him 6:30ish Mon am since it’s his first day?” I replied with a simple “no”. 🙄🤦♀️

Ugh! And on a paid holiday, too.

[GirlMomma]

Prospective DCP texts me…

DCP: I need childcare and heard you’re a great babysitter from (a current client.) Do you have a spot??

Me: Yes.

DCP: My husband and I are split and sharing custody. The days I have my child are Tuesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I work six days/week. I am off on Sunday.

Me: Okay, I am open Monday-Friday, what hours do you need?

DCP: I need child care from 8-10.

Me: In the morning?

DCP: No, 8 AM to 10 PM.

Me: *😳* My hours are 8 AM to 4:30 PM and the cost for spot is $200/week, 52 weeks/year.

DCP: How much is it for those hours on Tuesday and Friday?

Me: The cost for the spot is $200/week, 52 weeks/year.

*No response*

I didn’t want the client so I quoted very high. My heart broke. Even when I was a single mother, I couldn’t imagine having my child just four days a week, working 14 hour days three of the four days I had my child.

[Annalee]

I bet that's a hoax.....I've been been getting emails with this info and some texts wanting a job....when I call the number they answer but I can tell it's just not right! and the SAME number will call back for a job again but the emails wanting child care are different emails but similar requests for odd hours of care and crazy expectations. Somebody has too much time on their hands. LOL

[GirlMomma]

Annalee I planned on asking my current client if they know this person and asking them about their job. In my area, this is sadly fairly common. Not because we have employers requiring these days/hours, but because people don’t want to “deal” with their kids.

[Sparkles]

First day back and I'm already over it

[Momboss]

Had a daycare parent tell me she was thinking of opening her own inhome daycare since she loves kids and wants to play with kids all day as well as offensively insinuating its an easy job. It took everything in me not to tel her that it would be a horrible idea considering she needs parental advice from me at least twice a week. She doesnt even know how to parent her own kid how would she even be able to take care of other peoples kids! she doesnt even know anything about child milestones and development! She would seriously need to take a few child development classes because if she did open a daycare she cant be asking me for advice every day and not pay me for it. This job isnt just playing with kids..its meeting their needs developmentally, emotionally, and physically.. while also staying organized, planning curriculum, making meals, cleaning, and basically being able to make our 2 hands into 20 because of the millions things we have to do at once.

[e.j.]

It always looks easy when it's someone else doing the work. ;-)

I had a dcm who decided to open her own daycare. I encouraged her and answered any questions I could while she went through the licensing process. She opened but didn't stay in business for very long at all. I ended up taking on one of her dc kids. She stayed in touch after and visited every now and then. She had never been disrespectful toward me but it was nice to hear how much respect she had gained just from trying to do the job and realizing it wasn't all fun and games. lol

[Cat Herder]

I love when this happens. I always send them the links to the pre-req online training (40 hours) and paperwork then tell them I will help them with the application process. Having them complete the training helps them with parenting and an entirely new career path, so it is a good thing regardless. So far, only 2 made it through the process, and one washed out in under 2 years. 2 years is still the national average for a reason. Ms. J is now a high school counselor.

For me, childcare was the easy choice and I did see it as playing for free money for the first couple of years. As a child, I naturally sought out younger children, curiosity, and laughter to contrast my own world. Volunteering in the church nursery, babysitting, and tutoring were my first loves. Careerwise, compared to what I had been doing (trauma, violence, death daily) it was a dream, that is because I am naturally good at care. I did not have the vocabulary to express that so I am sure I sounded like a little shite to my elders, too. lol!!

[littlefriends]

Had a daycare parent tell me she was thinking of opening her own inhome daycare since she loves kids and wants to play with kids all day as well as offensively insinuating its an easy job. It took everything in me not to tel her that it would be a horrible idea considering she needs parental advice from me at least twice a week. She doesnt even know how to parent her own kid how would she even be able to take care of other peoples kids! she doesnt even know anything about child milestones and development! She would seriously need to take a few child development classes because if she did open a daycare she cant be asking me for advice every day and not pay me for it. This job isnt just playing with kids..its meeting their needs developmentally, emotionally, and physically.. while also staying organized, planning curriculum, making meals, cleaning, and basically being able to make our 2 hands into 20 because of the millions things we have to do at once.

Ugh, how annoying! I’m sorry that she behaved that way with you; that just sucks. I’ve never had a dcp say that but I’ve had lots of “Yikes, I could never do this as a job!” 🤣🤦♀️

[littlefriends]

Not really a vent, I just am struggling today and wanted somewhere to talk about it. Today is the 10th anniversary of my mom’s passing and I miss her horribly this year. There’s so much I’ve done and accomplished and changed in my life and I wish so much she could see all of that and share it with me. I should have maybe taken today off. I just want to crawl into bed and pull the covers over my head and sob!

[e.j.]

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. On the 14th of this month, it will have been 45 years since my own mother passed away. I still feel her loss every day and some days more than others, but the memories are sweeter and the pain has gradually lessened as each year has passed. She may not have been here physically to see me start and graduate from college, get married, have kids, etc., but I feel strongly that she has been with me spiritually and has witnessed each accomplishment in my life. I always feel hesitant to share things like this for fear of being labeled crazy or a religious fanatic (I'm not - a religious fanatic, at least ;-) ) but, if you're not opposed, try asking for a sign that she's still with you. I've asked for a sign during those times when I've missed my mother most and have always received what I consider to be a clear, meaningful to me sign that brought tremendous comfort.

If that isn't something you want to do, crawl into bed tonight after the kids are gone, pull those covers over your head and allow yourself to cry for as long and as hard as you need to. It's amazing how much better a long, hard cry can make you feel afterwards.

[Annalee]

Hugs to you!

[littlefriends]

Thanks everyone ❤️I took a super hot bath and went to bed! I may have ugly cried while I was picking out/putting on my jammies 🙄

[Annalee]

I've been closed for near two weeks and when dcg3 come in today I said "well look at that smile, looks like someone is ready to be back and see her friends'.....to which the mom replied 'well, not really, she was pretty panicky this morning as you have been closed for so long'..They just HAVE to say something AGAIN, just shut the door as they do NOT enter and move along!

[GirlMomma]

When did Amazon change their two day shipping to two day shipping after it ships??? I paid extra for something to arrive tomorrow and it is saying it won’t be here until Wednesday.

[Blackcat31]

Amazon shipping literally sucks right now. I've had Prime for a while now and I haven't gotten anything delivered in less than 5-7 days in months now!
If you complain to Amazon, I think they will refund the money you paid for quicker delivery but won't get the item there any faster. They are definitely lacking in the shipping department but like everyone else. they say it's not their fault but instead is the shipping companies they deal with....blah blah blah! .... (can you tell I am frustrated with them as well?)

[GirlMomma]

Blackcat31 I will call them soon and get my money back for the shipping then. Thank you!

This is the first issue I’ve had. No issues at all thru the holidays. It’s disappointing. Have you considered Walmart+? They don’t go to my area, but I’m in a rural community.

[Annalee]

Ok, I'm just gonna do this.......NAPTIME was

[e.j.]

I hate when that happens. :-( Hopefully the rest of your day is better.

[Blackcat31]

I’ve been in this business for more than 3 decades.
This is not my chosen career but I’ve been successful.
My pros outweigh my cons.
I've worked hard
I’ve learned lessons the hard way
I’ve been lucky in many areas.

I can comfortably say I think I’ve heard/seen it all
I’m confident I can manage any and all things that can pop up

My current issue with a parent sucks
I’m both angry and sympathetic at the same time.
How does one decide which way to lean?

….

[GirlMomma]

You’re a pretty level headed person. I have no doubt that you will find a way to be sympathetic but fair with this parent so you aren’t angry or resentful.