The Venting Thread

[Blackcat31]

"He did NOT want to come here today."

Does anyone else get a little offended when a parent says this to you? Like, you could've just said he wanted to stay home, or he wanted to spend time with you

Of course, 2 seconds after mom left he was fine.

I hear that a lot.

My response: "Well, I didn't really wanna be here either so I guess we'll have to make it through the day together."
Sometimes I try to find a day where I know the same child is resisting going home and I will say "Clearly he doesn't want to go home. Haha!"
See it works both ways mom/dad.

...and yes, their original statement comes across as rude and I know parents don't mean it that way but seriously....they really need to think before speaking.

I wonder what parents would do then if you said something snarky like "Well then why did you bring them? You should take them back home if they don't want to be here" Or say "Mommy is so mean making you come somewhere you don't want to be...."

[Annalee]

now that my sign in/out is outside...if a kid is resistant to come in, I shut the door and tell mom to knock when she fixes the issue.....I don't DRAG anyone in anymore LOL

[GirlMomma]

I just posted under Sparkles’ original post about how hard it would be for me to stop myself from saying “see ya tomorrow” and shutting the door. 😂

I bet the parent would never say it again!

[Alwaysgreener]

So I just listened to a child care zoom from licensing. They went over how to care for the kids. Here are some highlights...

1. Not my job to raise the child
2. Not my job to discipline the child
3. Forcing the child to lay down (and they mean telling the child to lie down for nap time) is not allowed (not even as a policy), to quote "if the child says they don't want to nap then you can't make them lay down, even if parents want the child to nap, and you will just have a cranky child in the afternoon" (do you know how contagious that would be? Also my ds didn't want to go to bed last night, should I have just said, he knows best and let him stay up?)
4. Working together with each family on how to custom a potty training plan that is the same at home and DC
5. If a child doesn't want to eat you can't force them to come to the table, (so leave him unsupervised while everyone else is in the kitchen)
6. (Talking about Supervision it was said) we know you have to use the bathroom too but you must know what each child is doing at all times

[Annalee]

What I'm trying to say is 'if I ASKED any child if they wanted to take a nap they would all say NO' so don't ask; it's simply the routine for the day to lay down and rest, not necessarily sleep, but rest! All role models/leaders need rest; I use those terms multiple times a day for different things.

[Rockgirl]

I frequently use the word “rest”, as in, “We ALL rest here.” Fortunately, naptime/rest time is required by the state for all children not yet in school. I say the same as posted above—“You don’t have to sleep, but we all rest quietly.”

Once, my licensing rep showed up during nap, and a girl was resting quietly with books. She said to the rep, “It’s okay if you’re not asleep.” I was so happy she said that. 🤣

[Alwaysgreener]

Annalee

Me: okay time to go potty Dcg.
DCG: I don't wanna take a nap.

I never give her a choice, she just knows the routine.

Shhhh, Don't tell but even though she said it today, I still told her it was nap time.

[Springvalley]

So I just listened to a child care zoom from licensing. They went over how to care for the kids. Here are some highlights...

1. Not my job to raise the child
2. Not my job to discipline the child
3. Forcing the child to lay down (and they mean telling the child to lie down for nap time) is not allowed (not even as a policy), to quote "if the child says they don't want to nap then you can't make them lay down, even if parents want the child to nap, and you will just have a cranky child in the afternoon" (do you know how contagious that would be? Also my ds didn't want to go to bed last night, should I have just said, he knows best and let him stay up?)
4. Working together with each family on how to custom a potty training plan that is the same at home and DC 5. If a child doesn't want to eat you can't force them to come to the table, (so leave him unsupervised while everyone else is in the kitchen)
6. (Talking about Supervision it was said) we know you have to use the bathroom too but you must know what each child is doing at all times

We have kids here at our center that will not take a nap

[Alwaysgreener]

Not taking a nap or sleeping because they truly do not need to is one thing. But when a child is truly tired and is cranky and mean to others, crying continuously because they are so tired, then says I do not want to nap and I have to obey the child, is another thing.

My job is to care for the children and do what is best for them even when they disagree. According to this "rule" in this meeting, I would get written up every time I felt it was in the child's and the group's best interest to nap the child whether they slept or not.

[Annalee]

I think the key is being focused and intentional and sometimes the wording has to be so-so for the state with guidelines. Having a free-for-all is not the answer. I used to get so caught up in 'wording' that I could not function but a mentor helped me SEE that what I was doing was OK; all in perception of the wording,....meeting the needs of my kids...make sense?

[Springvalley]

We've got a child (he's an employee's child) that comes in almost daily with a tablet or a toy and the employee knows that toys are only allowed from home on Fridays for share day but still allows their child to come in with it!

[SignMeUp]

So often the kids who don't nap are all out of whack in the afternoon, just accidents waiting to happen.
But according to one of our scripted, mandated supervision classes, there is no such thing as an injury caused by an accident. Those are injuries that we should have prevented. 🤷♀️

[Annalee]

dcm of dcg 3.5 asked if she could arrive at 6 today but pickup thirty minutes early.....she just now comes BACK in with her paci....I said "I thought you told me the paci was gone" dcg 3.5 said " mom said I can keep it till I'm a big girl" I said " well she doesn't have that here" and I reach for her hand and dcm puts her down to walk in as she realized I WASN'T carrying her in .

[Annalee]

Same parent told me 6 today and just now got a text that they decided to stay home today.....I mean, you are just thirty minutes past when you said you would be here??? Here we go, Thursday!

[Alwaysgreener]

It's snowing 🥶. Ds doesn't have boots, I got rid of them at the end of the season cause they didn't fit him anymore. Some dck brought snow gear but not all.

[Sparkles]

Dcm picks up just a little earlier than usual yesterday. Tells me she's only here early because she has to take her other child to a class.

Then tells me that she was supposed to go out of town yesterday, but sat in my parking lot and called her work to say she's not going. "So, I just went home."

Like, good for you and all, but do you really think that's something you should've told me lol Maybe I'm just different like that, but that's not something I would've admitted to my childcare provider? While I know it happens all the time, I would feel weird telling my provider that

[Springvalley]

Found out yesterday that one of my co-workers who use to be the administrator when the old owners had it has decided that this year may be their last year because of the stress and drama. One of the other co-workers who is now the assistant administrator has literally took manager to a whole new level

[GirlMomma]

DD11 is bucking me every chance she gets today 🫠

[Annalee]

Sent a child home with a 102 temp yesterday after nap; she contacts me last night and said she CALLED the dr and he said that happened because I covered him up at naptime and to leave the blanket off and dcb2 would be gooduhm, no, he can't return until fever free for 24 hours without medsI understand the pressure with some jobs but why not tell me about the pressure rather than some concocted story like that......I still would not have let him return but don't insult my intelligence.

[e.j.]

I'm trying to decide if this is more funny than infuriating or more infuriating than funny. lol

[Sparkles]

I unexpectedly only have one kid today.

It's nice, but at the same time, so boring! I'm looking at the positives, but this poor kid is so bored lol

Good news is dcm saw she was the only one and said she'd pick up early. But then after she left, I realized her other kids are at home since there's no school today Oh well, I'll take what I can get lol

[e.j.]

It never bothered me when I had just one child of my own to care for all day. For some reason, it feels different when I have just one dc child to care for all day long - emphasis on "LONG". lol
As much as I love my dc kids, I'd almost rather have a full house rather than just one to entertain all day. Hopefully, your dcm makes good on her offer to pick up early.

[GirlMomma]

Those days are bittersweet. It’s an easy day - but I hate being open for one kid lol

I had one yesterday, the 11 month old. She entertained herself, slept for three hours and mom picked up early. I didn’t mind it too much because she is such a great baby!!!!

[Alwaysgreener]

I just spent way too much time in a checkout line at a local dollar store because a customer transaction failed.

She tried purchasing a boost mobile card and the the transaction failed, so they tried to put the money back on her bank card but her account was unknown. So the cashier called tech and after twenty minutes, she found out it was the wrong number. She then called another number.

Tech couldn't find the transaction.

I suggested if the transaction failed then the customer should call her bank to see if it went through. (Since the cashier tried more than once then she also could have been charged more than once plus it could explain why they couldn't find the transaction)

The customer refused to check with her bank. She insisted that the failed transaction went through.

After 30 minutes I ended up leaving, I won't be going back for a while and knowing that store, they cashier won't be working there much longer either.

[littlefriends]

Dc kiddos have all had a really gross cold for a few weeks and I finally caught it. Spent my entire weekend feeling terrible and now today it’s just this terrible cough no medicine can tackle. And every last one of my diaper wearers pooped this morning. 😢

[e.j.]

I can empathize! Although none of the kids have colds, they're all sneezing, coughing and have runny noses that just won't stop due to the pollen blowing around in the air. It's awful! All of my kids had gross, poopy diapers first thing this morning, too. One little dcg even did me the honor of having a silent blowout as she was sitting on my lap. I was very lucky that my dd was home today so she watched the kids for me while I ran upstairs to change my own pants but it wasn't a great start to the day. They've each had a second bm diaper since. I swear my dc parents give their kids Miralax every Sunday night before bedtime.

I hope you feel better soon. Doesn't sound like fun. (Given the terrible cough, have any of you been tested for Covid? Just a thought.)

[Springvalley]

Today Grandparent drops off child and stated they didn't want to come in the daycare because they have a stomach virus, my data on my phone doesn't work so I'm using the daycare WIFI and I'm suppose to go tto the beach this weekend for a wedding! It's been a Monday!