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**Alwaysgreener** · 06-30-2021, 06:58 AM

Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post

I’ve been open 45 minutes and I’m annoyed already 😂 It’s pouring down rain here…

First family shows up, DCD brings DCKs in & asks where to put the car seat (DCM is picking up) since it’s raining on the porch. He acted upset I wouldn’t let him bring it into my home. I don’t have a spot for it in my house. I really wanted to say, perhaps DCM should quit going on girls trips so you can afford two car seats for each car. 🙄 Ohhh and I forgot to mention DCB2 brings a tablet today… that went straight into the cubby. So buying a 2YO a tablet is also more important than another car seat too.

Third family shows up, DCM loves to tell me all about her drama. I’ve tried outside picks/drops, I’ve sat there uninterested & BUSY… she literally doesn’t care. She babbles on and on. She’s holding up the driveway so other families can’t get in and out without getting drenched. Because she overstayed her welcome, DCB loses his mind when she leaves.

My fourth DCM comes in, clearly annoyed with the 3rd DCM because 3rd DCM blocked the driveway for so long. I apologized to her, I’d be PO’d too!

So here I am, secretly hoping the power goes out so I can shut down for the day 😏

you're not alone, wish my power go out too. Then right back on after everybody leaves.

**Alwaysgreener** · 06-30-2021, 08:05 AM

My sister just happened to be working at the school's Day camp that my daughter got an invite to. So she's driving my daughter camp and has to be there early for setup. She also lives next door. If it wasn't for my sister my daughter wouldn't be able to attend. So I'm grateful that she's driving my daughter.
However first she said she's going to pick her up at 8:30, then her hours changed and it was 8:20. Then she was running late one morning and my daughter got distracted while waiting for her and didn't hear her pull in, so they were late for school.
This past weekend she told my daughter be standing at the door by 8:15. Which will work on Monday and Wednesday when the kids don't arrive until 8:30 but on Tuesday and Thursday I have a part-time family that comes at 7:00. When she's playing with them she loses track of time. Even when I tell her to go to the door they make her feel guilty and she comes back to play. So I asked my sister if she could text when she arrived and she says no because she's on the phone. Seriously why are you on the phone every morning when you come to pick up my daughter.

3 days of my daughter standing at the door and two of the three days my sister what is late.

**Springvalley** · 06-30-2021, 09:43 AM

Today child shows up at 11:30 just as we are putting the kids down for nap and cleaning up after lunch. Now they all need to go potty! Really..

**Sparkles** · 07-01-2021, 07:50 AM

It rubs me the wrong way when a dcp points out that I get a long weekend. Maybe it's how they say it? Idk. I've had 2 parents say "one more day, then ms. X gets a long weekend."

**Springvalley** · 07-02-2021, 12:44 PM

Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post

I am sorry you had to deal with that! I had a DCD that kept coming between 11-1:30 - during nap time. He knew it was a disruption & commented on it several times. I finally made a 10 AM drop off rule to eliminate the disruptions.

We quit serving breakfast at 8 and by 10am usually they are all there unless we have a few strangers. New kid started this week and dad brought kid just as we were laying down for nap and never came in because I guess they read the sign on the door stating no drop off between 12-2 but it was only 11:30 or so. These same ones actually read the policy for once

**Annalee** · 07-02-2021, 12:47 PM

I have an 8 o'clock drop off time...

**GirlMomma** · 07-08-2021, 06:49 AM

DCM is off today. I have a 10 AM drop off rule. She text me at 9:39 and says they’ll be here by 10. It’s 9:50 and they’re still not here.

She pays for the spot. She’s following my drop off rule. But it bothers me that she’s waiting until the last minute to bring him. We all know he’s slept in - they’re usually here by 7:30. Probably was treated to a sugary donut and nap time is going to be hell today. Is it wrong of me to say “DCM I think it’s great you bring him on your days off to keep him on a schedule and allow you some free time. But keeping him on a schedule here is difficult if he sleeps in. Could you please bring him earlier on your next day off?”

**Cat Herder** · 07-08-2021, 07:30 AM

Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post

Is it wrong of me to say “DCM I think it’s great you bring him on your days off to keep him on a schedule and allow you some free time. But keeping him on a schedule here is difficult if he sleeps in. Could you please bring him earlier on your next day off?”

No. It is not wrong. I just had this discussion with my teacher mom a couple weeks ago. Same thing, sometimes literally running with the huge preschooler (stands to my chest) over her shoulder with less than 5 seconds to spare.

I finally just told her that the drop-off cut-off time was intended for doctors appointments, occasional oversleeps and family breakfasts out, not an everyday occurrence. I reminded her that my termination policy also states "any behavior that negatively affects the health and safety of the group as a whole." I also told her I adored her (I really do) but she was killing me by throwing off everyone else's schedule constantly. She laughed, promised to do better, and has.

During the school year, hers is the first to arrive and is alone for over 30 minutes while I prep breastmilk/formula and breakfast. It is still dark out. When he comes so late, he loses his mind when he is alone in the afternoons and has started having potty accidents after nap, again (potty trained two years). She is setting them up for failure when she has to go back to work. He is the biggest kid here, I can't have him acting out. I won't have time for it after all the years of work I have put in to getting him on a peaceful and pleasant schedule where he is happy, engaged and feels safe. I already did that work. She gets it. It is much bigger than me giving the dog a few extra breakfast per week.

**GirlMomma** · 07-08-2021, 07:49 AM

Cat Herder so I said something to her… she came rolling in with her PJ’s still on, no bra, etc. LOL we have a good relationship, so I hope this doesn’t affect it. She seemed irritated that I even brought it up. This child is here at 7:30 when she works. Coming 2 1/2 hours later completely throws him off.

Me: “Hey! I think it’s great that we keep him on a schedule when you’re off and he comes. But perhaps you could bring him earlier? It affects his behavior here and nap time.”

DCM: “Well your cut off is 10 AM right?”

Me: “Yes, it is. But I don’t want this to be a habit on your days off, since this affects all of us. Since it’s summer time, I’ve pushed nap time back so hopefully he’ll be worn out by noon.”

DCM: “I’ll just keep him home on my days off.”

Me: “I’m not saying that at all. It’s really great he’s here and on a schedule. I just want to keep it that way and see if you could do drop offs earlier. You pay for the spot, you can use it how you wish.”

DCM: “I am not feeling well today. It’s just so hard for me…” and into all the reasons why she couldn’t get here earlier than my cut off time.

She looked like she might not have felt too well, which to me is all the more reason to get the child up earlier, take him to DC then go back home to sleep. LOL

When she mentioned she’d come about 4/4:30 I told her to take her time and get much needed rest. I hope she does.

Within 2 mins of her walking out the door, DCB was in timeout because he didn’t want to listen today 😑 I wish parents understood that we aren’t trying to nit pick, it’s usually in the best interest of the child/children.

**Cat Herder** · 07-08-2021, 08:36 AM

If she was sick, I'd be wary of him coming to daycare. He has been exposed. Fingers crossed it is not contagious. I'd be screening all day.

**GirlMomma** · 07-08-2021, 09:22 AM

Originally posted by Cat Herder View Post

If she was sick, I'd be wary of him coming to daycare. He has been exposed. Fingers crossed it is not contagious. I'd be screening all day.

I already do with COVID and the “teething” excuses. I have let siblings come when one is sick. So far, it’s never backfired on me.

**GirlMomma** · 07-08-2021, 11:58 AM

Oh lord - so here’s an update on my drop off situation with DCD at pick up. DCD came to pick up boy 10 minutes ago - parents are separated so there are always communication issues.

Before he walked out the door, DCD asks “Did something happen today? She called me earlier and said it had something to do with daycare but wouldn’t tell me what. I was asleep when she called so I didn’t answer it right away and she was mad. She just said she’d take care of it.” DCD works thirds by the way.

I explained what happened with the drop off conversation and how I don’t want it to become a habit every week when she’s off because it not only throws DCB off but it causes a lot of “monkey see monkey do.” He has always been a tough to read guy when we talk so I couldn’t pick up on whether or not he understood my point of the drop off rule being used sparingly or not. He did apologize to me and explained they had been arguing so I shouldn’t take it personal, she was mad at him. LOL

From the sounds of the “she’d take care of it” comment, do you think I should be expecting a 2 week notice?

**GirlMomma** · 07-08-2021, 12:08 PM

Alwaysgreener I didn’t see your comment earlier, but that’s kind of my point! Normal drop off for him is 7:30. So bringing him 2.5 hours later is throwing him off. Bringing him in with 3 mins to spare, in your PJ’s is pissing me off. (LOL)

I don’t think she brings him to keep him on schedule (that was just the positive I could throw in there to say to her before the negative) nor do I think it’s the need for “me time” on her day off. I think she enjoys spending time with him. But she’s the parent I posted about a few weeks ago that was mad at DCD for not bringing DCB for two days because “we pay $xxx per week, he needs to be there!” so that’s her reasoning for sleeping in and dashing in my door with three mins to spare.

**Cat Herder** · 07-08-2021, 12:49 PM

I would look over your wait list, have a plan ready JIC and wait. The "I'll take care of it" comment directed to him may have been more of an ongoing argument of unrelated tasks. Like "I can't count on you, so I always have to handle it myself. What is one more thing? Rest your pretty little head now, click." For dramatic effect.

You read that in her voice didn't you?

**Gemma** · 07-14-2021, 03:34 AM

All this rain is making my knee ache

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