Alwaysgreener lol I'm so glad you found that funny. I did too. After forgetting to grab his hat at pick-up in cold weather, the same mom the next day at drop-off, "We was wondering where his hat went. Since we didn't have it, we didn't know." LOL I was feeling catty that morning, so I quipped with a slight smile, "It didn't go far!"
I think she might just be kind of...well, dumb. I used to stress my brain over people like her. What did I say wrong? Could I have been more polite? How could I have communicated better? Now, I just shrug. Pretty sure this person has about 2 thoughts occurring for my every 15 thoughts and there is no point even worrying over it.
Next time she messages me after pick-up, I'm not replying. And if she says something about it in person or presses me online, I will say, what are your working hours? (She works in a school.) 7:45-2:30 is the answer. My hours are 7-5, but that does not mean she has access to me til 5. And then I will ask, how much time do you spend after work corresponding with the parents of the twenty children you interact with? She will, I assume, say zero. (She is not a teacher.) And then I will say, "Respect my time with my family. Even your small, little harmless questions interrupt my time with my family." LOL, can you imagine how quickly she will anger and pull her son? Go right ahead.
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2022 was the year I stopped returning calls/texts after hours. It is my personal time. In fact, a DCP asked me if I was open during spring break about 5 weeks ago around 7 PM. I still haven’t responded and I won’t. If it was important enough to interrupt my personal time then DCP would’ve remembered the past 5 weeks to ask me during business hours at drop off or pick up. I know it’s petty.
Reading the text you said she sent from a third party view, I don’t see it as her being rude - I see her trying to make conversation/explaining herself. I have the same DCM & “because of COVID” she does drop offs and pick ups outside to eliminate the drama and nonsense and extended conversation. -
"And because I did not get them, I could not tell if they were wet or not."
Lol, I hope she can sleep tonight not knowing if the pants are still wet or not. You should let her know that you will keep them wet, just for her.
I recommend you try a second phone that you can turn off or just a second phone (goggle voice) for your clients. Or even make a policy not to respond. One provider even sends a (fake) automated message after hours saying that she will respond to non emergency messages during business hours. -
Just joined. This is the second time I have opened my daycare after getting burned out the first time. I feel so much smarter this time around, but still not smart enough. I'm learning every day!
I have two excellent sets of parents I work with and then... I have one set of parents, the DCM mainly, who is so odd and rude. I have released a new illness exclusion policy, and I hope she disagrees with it enough to disenroll.
For example: I provide a detailed daily summary of DCB2's day, like all my kids I watch, to DCM every day in a message on FB. Changes, meals, snacks, some activity enjoyed, outside time, and nap time. Everything is covered. DCM messages me in the evening. "He said his pants were wet. What happened to his pants he was wearing this morning?" I reply: They got muddy outside. Meant to give them to you at the door, but forgot. To which she replies: "Oh. OK. I was just wondering where they were, because he said they were wet. And because I did not get them, I could not tell if they were wet or not." UM, yes dear, that is what has happened. Should we go over it again?
I'm sorry. Am I supposed to do everything? Like be your eyes and hands? Always? I have a very nice cubby I bought where the kids' items are neatly stored. His pants were right next to his coat, his hat, his shoes. I put his coat, hat, and shoes on him. This left his pants next to his backpack, which she also forgot to grab. Maybe if you were more capable of getting your son to do what needs to be done to leave rather than babying his every move, you would not be so flustered that you forget to be in control of your own destiny. lol I get this kid 100% ready to go, so that he and she will leave more quickly. Wrong. He was 98% ready to go. I need to be in control of my own destiny next time and make sure the kid is changed back into muddy pants for home. Then she can have mud on her car and she will understand why I changed him in the first place without bothering me after hours with questions with obvious answers.
This time around, it's all about respect and appreciation. If a parent pays me $1000 a week, it isn't worth having to deal with sideways attitudes, entitlement, or may-i-speak-with-your-manager-syndrome. The moment they are disrespectful to me and the excellent care I provide, I will say so cooly, it has been wonderful doing business with you. I wish you the best.Leave a comment:
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I just had this come up as well. I gave out receipts to families before I had an app.
A termed family asked me their account total and my EIN a couple weeks ago. My response was “I have mailed a W-10. You can find your total by adding up all the receipts I gave to you after you paid.” -
I had someone do drop in care last year twice in January 2021 when their provider was closed. They asked me what their total was for last year so they can do their taxes. I just roll my eyes because its less than $100 so i kinda find it pointless to even consider for taxes and the fact that it was so low they couldnt even remeber how much they paid. Why do i have to be everyone’s accountant? Dont they know how much theyve paid for childcare?
for the breif time my oldest was in childcare, all i ever asked for was the EIN or SS number. I knew how much i paid for childcare..or its really simple to look through your bank account and find out…Leave a comment:
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Truthfully, the whole thing was just an opportunity to get the parents to update/confirm addresses, employers, emergency contacts and infant feeding plan paperwork. lol!! The cutesy breakfast/free food just gave them a few minutes to do it before taking the big kids to school/bus stop.
It is rare that every child in care has an older sibling and I grabbed the opportunity. If not everyone could have participated, I would have figured something else out. YKWIM? -
Because an unsupervised 2-year-old with an open box of chocolate in front of her is going to just eat ONE, because Mommy said so. 😆Last edited by Rockgirl; 02-15-2022, 08:20 AM. -
Oh so she was bored after scooping several litter boxes and clipping claws, so she decided to "police" posts on the internet and add her unasked for opinion so she had relevance in the world. I know the type. lol! -
No idea. She was a 35-ish redhead with lots of cats according to her facebook page. Before she blocked me, of course. -
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Private message: "That's kind of racist separating the kids at tables like that."
Facepalm. Who are these people?
My reply: "Oh, wow, ok. At each little table the bigger kid on the left is the big brother/sister to the little brother/sister on the right. As the title of the album states "Valentines Breakfast with my little Brother/Sister". For COVID, we felt limiting exposure of the big siblings *to their own sibling* made the most sense."
I was blocked.
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DCM texts late yesterday afternoon asking about names for Valentines Day. Never mind that I send a message home about it in our monthly news letter stating IF your child wants to bring Valentine's Day card, just sign them from the child. No need to make them out to each child as none of them can read and we don't make a big to-do about this particular day since it's not really about the kids and it's just another excuse for kids to feel they should get something (chocolate or gifts).
I replied "We have 12 kids here including yours. just have her sign her name" DCM replies that she has specific items for specific kids... Grrr... I tell her that she can come and "hand them out"/put them in specific cubby baskets in the coat room in the morning as I wont send out specific names of DCK's, She says Ok.
FF this morning and they don't show up. I text asking if everything is ok (they had a carbon monoxide leak previously and 2 family members were hospitalized) and asked if DCG was still coming. DCM replies "Oh yeah sorry DCD was suppose to text but DCG's grandma showed up last night and she spent the night there. If you are having a Valentine's Day party grandma will drop her off about 12:30-1:00 (we eat at noon) but if no party, she can just drop her Valentine's off sometime after 3:30"
I replied back that we aren't having a party PER THE NEWSLETTER and that she can save her Valentine's for tomorrow as some my kiddos begin getting picked up at 2:30 so no point in coming with them after 3:30.
Parents are so unorganized!!
Another DCM drops her 2 yr old (new 2) and says "Grandma gave her a box of chocolates for Valentines Day this morning. I told her she could have one piece. I went to the bathroom and when I came back she had eaten them all so I just wanted to warn you she might have diarrhea today".
I just said, "Well then she might get sent home."
DCM says "Even if it's just from too much chocolate?"
I replied "Diarrhea is diarrhea no matter the cause so yeah."
SMH.
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