The Venting Thread

[Springvalley]

Found out an employee LEFT their classroom to run to the restroom with the children in there by their selves!

[Rockgirl]

Ugh—NO! I’m with you—I wouldn’t be dealing with that, either!

[GirlMomma]

New DCF started today, 4YO and “potty trained.”

Within 30 mins, DCK had an accident. Tried multiple times after to go potty. DCK still had another accident before lunch.

I don’t even know what to say to the parents. I absolutely won’t be doing this all summer.

[Alwaysgreener]

This is going to be one of those we agree but view it differently post.

Your right my injured child comment is going to be really rare hence you have no reason to pick up and carry my child.

And I agree there our other ways to bond and love on a child, my son's love language is physical touch, he thrives on being held, hugged and snuggled. His reaction to any child crying to go offer a hug, even the child in a child he has never seen before. (My DD is quality time)

He is very independent and I had to laugh when he was teaching other kids older than him how to put on their winter gear. I just sat back and watched, this was when he was about three teaching an almost four year old.

There is truly a balance between holding/carrying a child and not holding/carrying them at all.

My post was just to show another perspective.

[Annalee]

Amen!!!!

[Blackcat31]

Why do parents carry their 3.5 yr old child in and always expect me to take her that way....I ALWAYS put my hand out for then to walk in but the parents continue the same thing EVERY MORNING......they STILL look at me like 'what, you can't carry her?'.......I'm sure my eyes say something too, but

I refuse to carry a child capable of walking. I don't think I carried my own children once they learned to walk unless absolutely necessary. I encourage independence and have natural rewards and perks for being independent.

While I understand what Alwaysgreener is saying and am NOT judging, just sharing my personal opinion....But I don't think it's necessary to carry a child to bond with them. There are many other ways to bond. I also understand that saying a child is yours is a reason to carry.... while I hear what is being said, I also think there are plenty of other opportunities to carry your child, if desired, other than daycare/school.

As for an injured child...one that cannot walk due to an injury is more than likely excluded from care. One that is injured on site under my supervision and is not able to walk would be transported to safety and medical attention as needed but in my opinion that is a completely different and more than likely a rare occurrence. Atleast it's never happened to me in the years I've been in business.

Children have an intrisic need to be independent, especially if that need is fostered. We see it in many species as it's a way to become self-reliant and not dependent on someone else. It's a natural progression of growth. I think parents can inadvertantly (sometimes purposely) suppress that path to independence through some family routines or even simple acts of behavior that are meeting other short term needs, such as putting the child's shoes on for them verses allowing them to do/try themselves so the parent is not late for work etc.

As I frequently tell my daycare clients; "It's not about making my day easier. It's about teaching the children to be independent."

[Annalee]

alwaysgreener,....talking with parents is hard as they do not use logic anymore,...I just reach out my hand and move on.....I do put things in newsletters that they probably do not read but at least I've done my part to communicate.

[Alwaysgreener]

Dcf needs 730 drop off but I have a no drop off between 745-815 while I get the older kids on the bus. Dcf pushed the time and sometimes dropped off at 746/747. But very very rarely did they come before 740.

Yesterday I said at drop off that it was Dcg last day going to the bus. Dcd says so no more time restrictions. Yep no more.

I was interested in seeing what time would be there new avg with out the time restrictions, since they insisted on 730 and rarely use it.

Dcd pulled in at 733. Are you kidding me, for nine months when I need you here on time you come late and make me stress, the first day you can come as late as you want you come on time. #$_&$$_

[Alwaysgreener]

I carry my ds, he is five now. I carry him to the timeout chair, sometimes to bed, if he asks for a hug, and maybe few other times when we are playing. I do it because he is MINE, It is a bonding comfort thing and if you ever carried when he wasn't injured, I would be annoyed. But again he is mine, I am not babying him, I am showing him love and bonding with him.

I would approach it with the parents that holding their child is great for bonding but you have x many kids and if you carried one you would have to carry them all, so unless they are injured, you don't carry after they are walking well.

[Sahm121]

Quick update - I made them go to the doctor yesterday. Now they have a cream And an action plan to follow at home because the pediatrician is annoyed at how many times I’ve insisted on visits. I think the doctor finally caught on that this is a pattern

[littlefriends]

Because they can’t stand the thought of their child being even slightly sad! I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve said to a parent “trust me, dck won’t die from crying for a few minutes!” at drop off. 🤦♀️

[Annalee]

I don't even do that; I just reach out my hand and my back doesn't hurt. LOL This one mom get annoyed I can tell but MY GOODNESS!!!!!

[GirlMomma]

I remember you saying you’ve asked them to document the child’s food at home! That’s such a shame!

[GirlMomma]

It’s annoying for sure! If my back isn’t hurting, I take them from the parent and deliberately sit them down at the parents feet, take their hand and walk them in. I will not carry a child that walks. 😂

[Annalee]

Why do parents carry their 3.5 yr old child in and always expect me to take her that way....I ALWAYS put my hand out for then to walk in but the parents continue the same thing EVERY MORNING......they STILL look at me like 'what, you can't carry her?'.......I'm sure my eyes say something too, but