Not Going to Give The One Year Old a Bottle

[Alwaysgreener]

I have a dcg that just turns one. She is breastfed and I always offer to continue offering BM after one. My intent is to offer it in lieu of whole milk in one of my sippy cups at meal times.

DCM messages this morning.

"Good morning, I'm nursing DD 3x per day (morning, noon, evening) so I've sent one 5oz bottle of breast milk that you can give her at lunch. The other meals she can have whole milk with her food. I've also packed an empty bottle because she doesn't really drink much from the sippy cup yet, so in case she isn't eating or drinking well, you can try whole milk in the bottle. I also packed a water bottle that she enjoys to sip from throughout the day. She doesn't take in much from that either, but I try to offer it to her a few times between meals to make sure she is taking in enough liquids." (note they use glass straw sippy cups and bottles, she never holds them on her own.)

I want to respond, addressing no bottles after one and my sippy cup but I am not sure how in-depth I should go (kids will eat when they are hungry).

DCM, thank you for sending the thawed milk, she did great with drinking it out of the childcare sippy cup. What she did not drink, I mixed with her food at snack time. She also did great with her new water bottle, it is shaped for her to easily pick up to drink by herself. Please continue to send the breast milk, feel free to leave it in the freezer bag. Since she does so well with the sippy cup and water bottle that I offer, sending other bottles and cups is no longer needed.

Also, it has been my experience that there will be some adjustments when weaning from the bottle but the consistency of not offering the bottle will speed up the usage of the cup. I know as a mom it is a struggle seeing your child not eat enough but do know and doctors will agree, children will eat when they are hungry.

Thoughts?? Would you respond in a different way??

[Rockgirl]

I think it sounds great!

[SandBox]

I’d leave out the second part. First part is enough. She drinks fine with you and with what you provide. The mom can’t really argue that. And if anything else comes of it, I’d probably say second part or just nod and say okay and do what you’re still doing. She won’t know the difference. But I doubt more comes of it. She probably will be relieved her child is drinking from your cups just fine. My guess anyway. Who knows with some of these people. 🤣

[Alwaysgreener]

Well, I sent just the top part of the message and DCM sent a frozen bag and the sippy cup today with water in the cup. (it was in the bag with more diapers and clothes)

But at least it was just a cup and not bottles, cooler, and ice pack.

I am not sure why she is afraid of her child becoming dehydrated.

[SandBox]

You provide your own cups right?

I’d just leave it in there. You provide your own cups and she’s drinking water just fine from them. So no need to even take it out.

[Alwaysgreener]

Yep, it is staying right in the bag. Tomorrow, I will refuse it.

[SandBox]

Alwaysgreener

If she says something negative back you can also blame group care on it. That kids fight over different cups and will try to take it. Everyone has their own color cup but it’s the same type of cup, cuts down on fighting.

[Alwaysgreener]

Dcm sent a large reusable bag ( the one she sent the diapers and supplies in the day before) with a bottle without nipple, cup of water, and ice pack. I keep the bottle and sent dcd back home with the rest.

But now I need to remember to lock the door in the morning, ugh, he walked right in.


Oh and he told me Dcg had a rough night, which means I have a cranky baby today but at least she is going home at noon today.

[SandBox]

Walked right in!?! Do they normally tell you when she has a cranky night or is that new?

[Alwaysgreener]

Walked right in!?! Do they normally tell you when she has a cranky night or is that new?

Yes I used to lock my door but parents stopped walking right in so now I leave it unlocked. But this family walks in and not just inside the door, they will walk in to the kitchen and even out my slider if we're outside.

They normally come at 40 after but this morning they came 5 minutes early. I thought hey I got 8 minutes I'm going to use the bathroom before she arrives. My bathroom is by the door, so I am using the bathroom and I hear him pull in. And then he walks in.


When he hands her off in the morning she normally cries for him. I look at her and comment that she looks tired. He then says she had a rough night. She arrives just in time for us to walk out the door to the bus stop. I put her in the wagon with the other child and she's crying in the wagon. So I roll the wagon back and forth and I noticed she is falling asleep.

But the problem is, when we get back to the house and I lay her down she will lay down for a couple minutes and then cry.

Then she gets up for breakfast and after her breakfast we go outside. Currently we are outside, in between the rain, and she is sitting on my lap because otherwise she is following me around crying.

This is going to be a long morning but at least she's going home early.

[GirlMomma]

I’ve been locking my door for awhile now. Several parents will try to open it and just walk in 🙄

[SandBox]

I asked if they normally tell you because I had one daycare family that when anything didn’t go their way, it was like passive aggressively put back on me with “so and so slept bad so must have been something they ate yesterday here.” “So and so cried the entire evening so must have been something that happened here” Constant with that when they were mad about something. So i had to ask if maybe they are mad you’re sending their cups back and making a dig about her sleeping poorly. But you brought it up to them so that’s not it. Lol

[Blackcat31]

Oh goodness! Some parents like to pass the buck don't they?
A good response that I would have a really hard time not uttering every time they blamed daycare for something would be "Then why would you continue to bring her/him here? As a parent I certainly wouldn't keep bringing my child some place they made my life so miserable" Then do the dead stare and not say anything else.

[SandBox]

Blackcat31

🤣🤣🤣 that’s a good response! After a long while I did say something similar and she did back peddle. And then I did stop responding at all when she would pull it, like I just acted like I didn’t care her child slept like crap or cried too much, whatever it was. And she did for the most part stop doing it. It took me a little while to figure out what she was doing so I would response with “oh no! I’m so sorry! I don’t know what it was!” And unintentionally fed into it. That family was a whirlwind. Lol.

[SandBox]

Alwaysgreener

Ugh, if that’s the case then good luck!

[Alwaysgreener]

DCM side pick up today at noon and it is afternoon she is late. I even told her yesterday that lunch would be done in over with before she picked up because she was all worried about her baby having enough time to eat.

Blackcat31 I need to add your policy about when they say they're coming early to pick up and they don't come, I know you have them sign something can you please message me.

[Blackcat31]

I have blank schedule sheets by the door. If a parent says they are picking up early I have them fill out the schedule accordingly. Then they give me the paper and I tell them "That is now your recorded pick up time. Late fees will apply as normal if you are late. See you at x:xx PM. Bye!"

It just got old being told someone was being picked up early and then the parent no-showed. Many times if I know I am going to be "off" early etc, I will make a last minute appointment or plan an activity if a certain kid was going home early and when the parent no-showed, it messed with my entire day so I started making them fill out a schedule change form and applying late fees.

Many could just show up and not tell me they were planning on being early and avoid late fees if they didn't come early as planned but that doesn't bother me because I didn't know/plan for early pick up. lol! I am lucky now though as my current group of parents all show up when they say they will, even early.

[Alwaysgreener]

So this child is not really taking any of the BM in a cup, I am mixing it in applesauce or other foods to use it. For the past month, I have been struggling to get this child to take the bottle. I did talk to DCM and she did comment that DCG took the bottle when they got home. I looked forward to getting her off the bottle and hoped DCM would follow the trend and only use BM at home.

Anyways, today dcg was eating cheerios and I added some BM to the bowl and she stopped eating them. I later put the milk in her water bottle (minus the water of course) because she likes drinking out of it and she then refused the water bottle. On Monday, I had given her whole milk in her cup and DS held the cup for her and did not turn her head away the whole time.

So I am starting to think that there is something going on with this BM (frozen)? Is there any way to test this theory? (at this time, I have not smelt anything off.)

[SandBox]

Oooo I wonder if it tastes like soap! I forgot the name and all that’s around it, but it happens. I think it only tastes good if it’s fresh milk. I don’t know how to test it except to try it yourself. 🤮 haha. So maybe ask the parents to do it. It has a fancy name. I have to run so can’t google it at the moment.

[SandBox]

https://www.medela.us/breastfeeding/...aste-and-smell

https://www.whattoexpect.com/first-y...se-breast-milk