Why Do They Do This? *Petty Gripe*

[Coloradoprovider]

I have a potty training handout and I go over the requirements for training. It includes, no dresses (as they dangle in toilet), not snaps, buttons, zippers - only fully elastic waistband. If child shows up in clothing that doesn't work for potty training, I say something like: looks like we're in diapers today, we'll try again tomorrow when child has easy to remove bottoms. If parent can't even dress child for success, then I figure they aren't taking the process seriously. If parents and I aren't on the same page, then I don't start until they are.

[GirlMomma]

MissCait sounds about right lol

[SandBox]

GirlMomma

Lol! She is what she is. 🤷🏼♀️ I didn’t hate her but she threw a lot of little fits. Slammed my front door once too. I was glad she left.

[GirlMomma]

She sounds like an interesting person! 😂

[SandBox]

GirlMomma

After they left me she ended up cheating on her husband and they divorced. Cheated on him with her daughters dad that got out of prison. High goals on this one let me tell ya. 🤣 She’s been through about 5 men since divorce 2 years ago. 😬 “don’t judge me I’m a badass” memes and corny quotes all over her FB. Lol. 🤣🤣 okay I’ll stop. I’m being mean. 🤣

[GirlMomma]

Whats your hygiene policy?

For the health and wellbeing of everyone, all children must arrive at daycare clean, in good health, and in clean (proper fitting) attire. Children should be bathed regularly and their oral hygiene maintained daily. Their fingernails must be trimmed, filed and maintained. If your child’s hygiene is not maintained, you will be called for pick-up.

[GirlMomma]

Yes!!! A neighbor of ours is the first who said she dressed like a single mom. She gets attention, but it’s not the kind of attention she thinks it is. It’s all negative!

[SandBox]

GirlMomma

Whats your hygiene policy?

Yea it’s ridiculous really. I’m big on treating kids the same too. This was the same mom who had an older daughter by another man who was in prison. I watched her during summer and school breaks. And her daughter had a lot of behavioral issues. She was on medicine, but a lot was the trashy environment she was in too. Anyway, the mom would put her down all of the time in front of me. Prop her son up over her daughter. I can’t remember what she said now but it wasn’t nice and squashed her self esteem.
The mom got so much attention though. Even at my house. Can’t tell you how many calls my husband got from people he knew asking about the bombshell in the white car at my house. lol. 🙄 Yea bombshell with a personality of a snail and major entitlement issues. Have fun with that. 🤣

[GirlMomma]

I had one mom that always made sure she looked good. Hair done up, make up, nails done, super sleezy work clothes, but her son barely had clothes that fit him. Forgot his coats/hats/shoes. He stunk so bad from lack of baths. He was a big boy so he sweated profusely during the warm months. He needed a bath every day. By Thursday I could barely stomach his smell. It was ridiculous.

I have this mom now. She dresses like a single mom, always wearing dresses and heels… trying to wrangle not one, but two toddlers in a car/car seats.

I changed her son’s diaper one day and OMG the smell. We all know the musty-not-bathed-in-days smell. This wasn’t the first time either. I couldn’t stand it anymore so I implemented a hygiene policy. Since I implemented the policy, I haven’t smelled him.

She’s expecting their third child with her husband - a girl. Her oldest son gets Walmart shoes and the other son gets the hand-me-down cheap shoes from big brother. Nothing wrong with that at all! But the baby, that’s still in the womb, has at least two pair of *glittery* Dr. Martens that she bragged about on social media. They’re at least a toddler size 10… did I mention the child is still in the womb?!

Again, nothing wrong with any of it. But I am a firm believer in making sure your kids are taken care of first. I am also big on making sure all of your kids have the same quality of life.

[SandBox]

I’ve had this. For both big and small. One family put their 1.5 month old in 4t clothing. It was ridiculous. No money issues.

And I’m going to sound like such a judgey B word with this one but whatever. I had one mom that always made sure she looked good. Hair done up, make up, nails done, super sleezy work clothes, but her son barely had clothes that fit him. Forgot his coats/hats/shoes. He stunk so bad from lack of baths. He was a big boy so he sweated profusely during the warm months. He needed a bath every day. By Thursday I could barely stomach his smell. It was ridiculous.

[Cat Herder]

Some subscribe to the "No shoes until two" for proper toe development and only really use them to meet mandatory daycare health and safety rules. Some just put minimal effort into everything I suppose.

[Momboss]

I hate when parents dont dress their children for success. Having the most complicated clothing on a potty trained child is irritating, especially when they start crying in the bathroom that they cant get something off/on.

[Rockgirl]

Far from low income!

[Annalee]

SAHM, your comments made me think of my own upbringing of mostly hand-me-downs.....maybe that is a good reason.

[BeeNature]

I had a DCM who did the opposite. She would find cute shoes on sale that she couldn't pass up and squeeze her daughter's foot into them when they were clearly one size too small! Her daughter was always complaining of her feet hurting and have sores on them from the shoes. I would tell DCM she needs better shoes that fit and sometimes she would show up in decent shoes, but still half the time wouldn't. She would blame DCG and say she was throwing a fit and wanted to wear whatever cutsie shoe she had on that were way too tight. Of course by the time we had to go outside she was taking them off and trying to run around barefoot because her feet were hurting. It's because of this I started buying extra shoes or rainboots on sale to put kids in that didn't have proper shoes for play. Some parents just lack common sense I guess 🙄