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  • Blackcat31
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    Honestly, you shouldn’t have to be laying it all out for them.

    I would say he needs to get adequate quality sleep and if at any time you notice he’s nodding off or not prepared for the day, send him home.

    Just tell the parents you’re willing to give it x number of days and if there is no improvement in his tiredness; term.
    Like CH said, I won’t work with those that won’t/don’t work with me.

    It makes zero difference to me if parents co-sleeps or not. I ONLY care about DCKs behavior and level of alertness while at daycare. Some kids can co-sleep and have no problems napping solo at daycare.

    Others can’t make the change so I base my willingness to keep a kid on what they do AT daycare. Parents need to adjust their practices to ensure their child can function in care. End of story.

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  • GirlMomma
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    CH he is going down on a cot without issue and staying asleep. This has improved since his first day. That’s another reason why I think the co-sleeping has stopped? Maybe I’m wrong he’s just adjusted to the cot? 🤷‍♀️

  • GirlMomma
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    Originally posted by e.j. View Post
    Before I suggested a later drop off time, I'd want to make sure that it wouldn't impact nap time for everyone else. If later drop off means dcb will be sleeping in each morning and then not be able to sleep when the other kids are taking their naps, I wouldn't make the change.
    Your first paragraph is spot on.

    Here is what I was thinking of putting on the action plan. I have never done this before, so please feel free to help me with the wording!

    “The parents are expected to establish a consistent bedtime routine with the child. The parents are expected to put the child to bed at a reasonable hour to ensure the child is getting a minimum of 10 hours of sleep/night.

    The child needs to be woken up at 8:00 AM each morning. The child should have a consistent morning routine in which he is fed breakfast and dressed.

    The child should arrive at daycare at 9:30 AM. The time will adjust by 10 minutes until the arrival time is 7:45 AM once the child has adjusted to the new bedtime and morning routine. If there is no improvement by xx, The Provider reserves the right to move forward with the termination.”


    Is this too much???
    Last edited by GirlMomma; 01-17-2023, 06:21 PM.

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  • GirlMomma
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    I can’t agree more! I have stressed this to them.

  • GirlMomma
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    I actually haven’t flat out asked this. Based on their verbiage, they’ve stopped co-sleeping. But I am not 100% sure. I also am not willing to work with anyone that isn’t working to change this.

  • Springvalley
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    Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post
    He leaves at 3:45, goes home and I don’t know what happens from there.

    Last night, I was told he was asleep at 5 with grandma. Then they started the bedtime routine at 8:45 but “don’t know when he actually fell asleep.”
    Sounds like to me they need a routine they can actually stick to. Sure wish Jo Frost could intervene

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  • e.j.
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    Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post
    Has anyone stuck this out, stayed consistent and had success??
    I have worked with some pretty tough kids and it turned out great in the end. When it was time for them to go to kindergarten, I was actually sad to see them go. I often look back and wonder, though, if it was worth sticking it out when I think about the impact it had on the other kids and on me. If you've begun to see improvement and working with this family isn't completely draining you, I'd maybe go with your mentor's plan. Give it another 2 weeks and reassess at that point. If, on the other hand, the thought of another 2 weeks with this kid makes you want to start crying or the other kids in your care are showing signs of stress, it may be time to term now.

    Before I suggested a later drop off time, I'd want to make sure that it wouldn't impact nap time for everyone else. If later drop off means dcb will be sleeping in each morning and then not be able to sleep when the other kids are taking their naps, I wouldn't make the change.

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  • Cat Herder
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    If they are still co-sleeping, knowing how hard you are working to fix it, I'd term immediately.

    I am only willing to help those that are willing to help themselves. They know better, now. No excuses.

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  • GirlMomma
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    He leaves at 3:45, goes home and I don’t know what happens from there.

    Last night, I was told he was asleep at 5 with grandma. Then they started the bedtime routine at 8:45 but “don’t know when he actually fell asleep.”

  • Springvalley
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    Originally posted by GirlMomma View Post
    I got his cot out and laid him down for a 20 minute. I woke him up gently and kindly… it worked. He’s in a better mood and is content.

    This is a sleep issue.
    What is his schedule from the time he leaves your daycare until the next day? Reason I'm asking is because if he's going to bed early like 6-7pm and then getting up early he's sleeping to long and then he's ill. I notice with myself if I go to bed early I feel like crap the next day because I got to much sleep

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  • GirlMomma
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    I got his cot out and laid him down for a 20 minute. I woke him up gently and kindly… it worked. He’s in a better mood and is content.

    This is a sleep issue.

  • GirlMomma
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    Update…

    Wednesday and Thursday during nap DCK, the kid had to lay in the same room as me. He tossed and turned but finally went to sleep for about an hour and a half both days. He played with the other kids and kept his distance from me, but kept coming to check on me if I was doing something.

    I was closed Friday… so I knew we’d be starting all over this week.

    Yesterday, the kid was EXHAUSTED. He was nodding out while sitting up, SCREAMING. After 45 minutes of screaming, I called for pick up. DCP thanked me for my patience and understood why I called. I advised DCP to follow my schedule for the day so he’s in bed at a decent hour and ready for the next day.

    DCP drops off today and claims DCK got more sleep last night. There is no flipping way he got more sleep. The kid is rubbing his eyes in-between screams, laying at the gate I put up to keep him out of the kitchen.

    Has anyone stuck this out, stayed consistent and had success?? I really want to help this family but I don’t know how. This is week three. The child is 22 months old and was born premature, I’m not sure if that makes a difference or not. They cosleep, but the naps are improving with work.

    My mentor suggested I do a written plan of action where I require he has a solid bedtime routine, gets xx amount of hours of sleep with a solid morning routine before arriving to DC. If there is no improvement in two weeks, they have to go.

    DCM works later in the AM. Should I require her to do the drop off so it’s not so early for him? I don’t want to do part-time care because I feel like the inconsistency wouldn’t be good for him.
    Last edited by GirlMomma; 01-17-2023, 06:44 AM.

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  • Cat Herder
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    Great news. I will hope with you for continued progress!

  • GirlMomma
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    So far today, no meltdowns!! We’re only 20 mins in, but trust me, this is progress!!!

    Let’s hope nap time will be an improvement… at least by the end of the week.

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  • GirlMomma
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    They’ve purchased a cot. I think they are trying to work on it. I am the only provider willing to work with them. The others just termed instantly 😂😅
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