Parent Time Off Vent

[Momboss]

I have a daycare couple who adopted a baby last Summer. They both got 8 weeks leave from work. Mom took her maternity leave at the beginning and dad decided to take his now, since you have a year to use it. Im assuming this is paid leave otherwise i dont think people would go 8 weeks without getting paid for no reason almost a year after child was born.
anyway with that said, this leave should be time spent with baby but he is still bringing the child to daycare. Mom and I are somewhat friends, we knew each other as teenagers. We just had a talk about how its sad that parents dont use their time off work with their kids and need all this “me time “apparently.
if he is still getting paid then the “im paying for the spot to im going to use it” doesnt apply here. If he gets paid not to work then so should i lol i mean i am saving the spot for when you come back…
They fought so hard to have this “miricle child” and its like 9 months later you are over it? When they asked my opinion i said the child should still come at least 2 days a week. And they still decided to just go with bringing him to daycare every day.

[GirlMomma]

I have a parental leave clause because of this. I only allow a child to come six hours/day when the parent is on leave for any reason. That’s the amount of time a child would be gone if they were enrolled in school.

My drop off cut off time is 9:30 AM, although my kids now are on contracted schedules. The kid has to be picked up by 3:30 or six hours after drop off. This ensured I wasn’t staying open until closing time for one kid whose parent is sitting at home. We all know, it happens every time! Overtime fees apply if they’re late, and my overtime fee is $30 for the first 10 minutes and $1/min after that.

If they only wanted to come a couple days/week, I’d allow the child to attend up to 9 hours on those days or their regularly scheduled hours.

Personally, I shouldn’t be responsible for a child when the parent isn’t working. Just my opinion.

[littlefriends]

How frustrating for you and sad for that kiddo 😢I’ve never had that situation. Right now I have a set of parents that are in their mid 40’s and waited to have a baby so their little just turned 19 mo. They leave her here open to close (11 hours) Mon thru Fri, rain or shine. Dcm is ALWAYS mentioning how tired she is 🤦♀️🤷♀️

[GirlMomma]

Oh gosh! 🥺 I had parents like that before and I no longer allow that at all. I am willing to provide childcare between the hours of 7:30 AM and 5:00 PM. I am now contracted to provide care for parents 30 mins before their scheduled work time and 30 mins after. I am only willing to provide 9 hours of childcare/day per family. In my experience, MOST (not all) parents need childcare for anymore than 9 hours a day.

[Blackcat31]

It is definitely frustrating…

I’ve saved a ton of stress just accepting that if I’m open and the space is paid for (by whoever) then the child will be here.

The less I know about what parents are doing the better.

[Momboss]

Right, they didnt need to tell me. They wanted to know if they could get a discount if his attendance changes. Is there no shame though? Lol like “she knows im just at home now not wanting to spwnd PATERNITY leave with the reason why i got this leave in the first place” lol

[Blackcat31]

Momboss I know... but honestly I really do think parents feel it's the normal and right thing to do...pawn their kid(s) off onto others to basically "raise." Hence the lack of shame or embarrassment. My DD is a new mom and she said almost all the FB mom groups literally push new moms into ditching thier babies and not feeling one ounce of guilt because they should get all the "me" time they want/need. They basically tell new parents "That is what daycare is for" and that spending quality time with their child is neither expected or quality at all. Children seem to be an accessory now days to most (NOT ALL) parents. I have several parents that truly view maternity and/or paternity leave as time meant for the parent to be ALONE. IT's mind boggling. Hang in there....

[Sparkles]

This would be incredibly frustrating to me, too. I've got a couple parents like this - one dad is really bad about it. But...they pay for the day, so whatever.

Parents like this is one of the reasons I close often and have no guilt

And I know it's petty, but the dck of the one dad is aging out this year to KG and I can't wait They are going to be in for a rude awakening. You can't leave your kid at school for 9 hours, dad. Oh, and you actually have to spend time with them on non-school days or find someone else who's willing to take your kid for 9 hours while you're at home. Which there's no one...they can't even find a sitter for after school for next year.

So good luck with that

[Momboss]

Blackcat31 i would LOVE to have 8 weeks to have time with my kids. The things we could do! The places we could go! The memories!

[GirlMomma]

8 *paid* weeks off at that! 🥺

[Sahm121]

The less I know about what parents are doing the better.

this 100%… I’d rather just not know what they’re doing because when they cry the crocodile tears about missing snowflake SO much and I know they were at home all day, I can’t be responsible for the look that comes across my face

[littlefriends]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Me too!