What Do You Think????

[ItsAllSonShineAndRainbows]

A little back story. Family we were planning on terming at the end of the year, but were "secretly" hoping would choose to leave on their own when we move at the end of this month. Amen and amen, they chose to leave.... which is great because I hate terming
Families last day will be Nov. 30th. Another family informed me today that the mom texted her this morning that "Just a heads up, Tuesday will be our last day" and said "maybe we could have a play date" The only reason this mom had the other moms number is from when she started over a year ago and asked for references. She overstepped her boundaries at that time and started texting the other mom to "chat" so the other mom just stopped responding.
Do you think Mom1 overstepped by texting another family (that they are NOT friends with, and it definitely made Mom2 uncomfortable) to let them know she would be leaving?
Mom1 is awkward and nosey. She constantly "reminds" me how to do my job, and has to be "reminded" of our procedures/rules regularly. Not even a month ago her kid was running to hug mom2's kid at drop off (we have sent out several reminders about not letting kids run around at drop off, nobody else has a problem with it... but I digress) and mom1 said to Kid1 "don't hug him, we don't need those germs" Kid2 had a little leftover runny nose from when KID1 got him sick... which happened more than once...
Two more days, two more days, two more days...

[Blackcat31]

I dunno; I try to stay out of most parental interactions as they have nothing to do with me.

I really don’t think it’s overstepping at all as this is how alot of “mom friendships” are formed
(meeting through day care or school activities etc…)

If either mom has an issue with the other I think it’s their issue to address.

Happy to hear your problematic family is leaving on their own

[ItsAllSonShineAndRainbows]

I would agree, but they're not "friends" She's a stalker I don't plan on addressing it at all. Mom2 just plans on ignoring future texts. I just thought it was weird... I don't be giving out phone numbers of other parents for referrals anymore :P
I honestly probably wouldn't have thought it was weird from any other parents... This one is just bonkos. Two more days!

[Blackcat31]

Yes some parents can definitely take things over board! ....
I usually ask parents (current and past) to write up a quick statement about my program that I can use to share with prospective clients as a reference. I also have parent testimonials posted on my website so anyone can read them.
I don't give out contact info of other parents for any reason. The parent can give it out but I wont ask and wont provide it to others.

If I were the parent being "stalked" I would either ignore all incoming texts from crazy parent or I would politely respond with something in regards to having no interest in play groups but thanks for the offer.

Hoping the last two days goes fast!!

[ItsAllSonShineAndRainbows]

I have parents write testimonials online and print them out to have in the classroom. I always ask other parents if I can give their number as reference, but will definitely not be doin that anymore. Hasn't been a problem in 13+ years, but someone always ruins it :P
Mom2 is ignoring texts. She is very non-confrontational.

Of the two days, kid came sick Monday, went home at 12:30. Didn't come for second day. Today I'm sick :| In the last 6 months this kid has gotten someone sick 3-4 times... *bye bye!*

[Snowmom]

I'm the same as Blackcat. I never give out phone numbers or emails. Nor do I ever do group texts. A psycho mom taught me that lesson very early on when she went ballistic for sending her sick child home and bombarded other families trying to stage a protest.

I would just apologize to Mom2 that they kept her phone number and what you intend to do in the future... ie; not do phone references, do letters, etc.
I personally do testimonials on my webpage. If someone asks me for a reference, I direct them there. If they push, I tell them exactly why I don't give out that info.
I have never seen the value of asking a perfect stranger about another perfect stranger, who is obviously on good terms with the provider. Of course you're going to get a one sided view! Look at possible licensing infractions or go with a personal recommendation if you're worried about a provider!

[Alwaysgreener]

I know I never got references, I'm never going to give you the name of somebody that I think isn't going to give me a positive review.

I do have to say it early on, I had a mom that was persistent and would not take no for an answer when I told her that I would have to get the other parent's permission to give out any contact information.

After that I put Christmas cards from families into a binder and if I was ever asked for references I would say that I couldn't get out information without permission and then offer the binder of Christmas and goodbye cards.

[ItsAllSonShineAndRainbows]

That's sad! I don't do group texts, as I communicate only through daily connect. Parents don't even have MY number! Definitely not giving numbers out any more. Sad it's come to this after no problems for 13+ years...

[Springvalley]

We've got a list of employees names, numbers and birthdays so that if someone is sick and can't come in then someone else can cover for them. So one of the parents or two have decided to get teachers phone numbers and ask how their child is etc well, it became so bad that the administrator was getting phone calls and texts on her day off so one of the teachers decided to do the remind app for her class so that she didn't have to deal with having repeated texts over and over again and it's worked great

[Alwaysgreener]

I'm not sure about the remind app but my DD 1st teacher's used one called bloomz (it had a school and daycare setup) and it allowed parents to contact each other.

[ItsAllSonShineAndRainbows]

We use Daily Connect. Parents can't contact each other through it, though I don't know that I would want that feature...
Any parents I've had in the past that wanted to contact each other out of school have just given their number to another parent... but it was THEIR choice.