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  • GirlMomma
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    @PB&J I am pretty sure he’s trying to prove it. But the child is a very solid, healthy kid. I don’t have a single concern of DCK being malnourished. The other parents offer the child a variety of foods and if the child doesn’t eat, oh well. I’m pretty sure DCK is playing the DCD because DCD will give DCK anything he wants so he eats.

  • PB&J
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    He’s trying to prove that the child is malnourished when in the other parent’s custody, or he’s just “concerned” in general? Because all he’s proving is his demonstrated knowledge that his child is a picky eater and chooses not to eat when presented with an array of food. He’s showing that he knows this, and has known it and made it obvious to you, for a long time. Gonna be hard to prove that anyone is causing malnourishment. I hope I’m overthinking that, and dad is just trying to figure out his son.

  • GirlMomma
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    DCD obsesses because DCK shares custody so he thinks DCK is malnourished… which isn’t the case. The other parent just sounds more assertive ☺️

  • GirlMomma
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    Blackcat31 and @PB&J thank you guys for the advice! Makes perfect sense.

  • Rockgirl
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    I do as PB&J and BC do.

    Also, it sounds like dcd obsesses over this, and the child may be acting this way to exert some control.

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  • GirlMomma
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    @PB&J good tip, thank you!

  • Blackcat31
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    I've had kids tell their parent they didn't get a "yummy" snack like the rest of the kids and I always say "DCK, you know I can't give you certain snacks unless you have had a healthy lunch. If you don't eat enough veggies at lunch then I have to serve them at snack. Maybe if you have a healthy dinner tonight at home, Dad or Mom can give you a snack later" Then I leave it. I know all my parents know I don't cater to pickiness and I won't give a kid empty carbs or "fun" treats if they didn't eat a balanced lunch. My food program supports me in this practice and I make sure the parents understand this. Even if the snack it "healthy" per say such as a granola bar or cereal bar, I still make sure the child eats carrots and dip etc for snack because it isn't fair if they are simply holding out for the filling things verses the healthy things.

    Honestly I try not to engage too deeply in this subject with parents because like kids, it eventually just becomes a power struggle and a bid for control so I try to stay vague and say things like "I serve healthy lunches with lots of variety. DCK can eat or not." If a parent continued to push the subject, I would start bombarding them with information about healthy balanced meals from the food program and refuse to discuss the topic any further than you do you and feed at home however you wish and I will continue to serve according to the food program guidelines.

  • PB&J
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    If I know the parent is a pain and I’m not in the mood to deal with it, I would move my special treat to a different day. Otherwise I’d serve him the healthy snack while others get the planned snack. If DCD confronts you, let him know that “every” child who skipped lunch was offered the healthy snack to ensure they ate well that day. He doesn’t need to know that his son was the only one, just that it’s your policy for every one.

  • PB&J
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    Even, “The only way he will try new things is if he’s exposed to new things. Every new food is paired with a familiar food, and we eat four times a day. Hungry children will eat.”

  • PB&J
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    Start saying things like, “The usual; he tried what he liked!” or “nothing unusual at mealtimes today”. He knows his kid. I would have said, “DCD we don’t provide daily reports for this age. I always let parents know about anything out of the ordinary, don’t worry.”

  • GirlMomma
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    Blackcat31 I absolutely agree, and I watch this child manipulate his parents in more ways than just this one. The child has ate this exact meal before but refused it that day for whatever reason.

    I am always blunt about what he ate/didn’t eat because DCK is 4YO and I think tells DCP a lot of BS. The first time DCK refused Pot Roast DCP didn’t act like this but he also isn’t the parent that backs me up either.

    So if he refuses a meal again and that day I have a special treat planned for snack, I shouldn’t offer the special treat, just veggies and dip? What do I say if the DCK says something to DCP about the others getting a special treat and not him?

    I am full of questions because I know this won’t be the last kid to do this

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  • GirlMomma
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    @PB&J Thank you! He always ask so I always feel obligated to answer

  • PB&J
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    I would have said ”it sure wasn’t his favorite! He picked at it, but there were three choices so I guess he wasn’t hungry. But we have snack a couple hours after lunch so he has plenty of opportunity to eat!” Big smile.

  • Blackcat31
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    I do the same as PB&J. I don't really discuss eating/meals with parents either. I serve, their kid eats or they don't. There are no substitutions and there are no filling snacks for those that don't eat lunch either.

    When parent volunteered to send extra snacks, I would have said no. I offer plenty of healthy options and if the child doesn't want to eat, they go hungry I guess.
    If some one refuses lunch all together and we are having cinnamon rolls for snack, the non eating child would get veggies and dip. I don't cater to picky eaters.

    If parents choose to do so, that's on them but parents are THE reason kids are picky in the first place. For some reason they feel they must give their child "something" so they aren't hungry when in reality it's rarely if ever about food and is about manipulation. I won't be manipulated by a child. I serve healthy options on a rotating schedule with lots of different choices for kids so it's up to them if they eat or go hungry.

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  • GirlMomma
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    Yes, he always asks me. Usually the child will eat something off the plate like you said - but this day he didn’t
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