Help with 1 Year Old

[Sahm121]

Newly turned 1 year old has been in this stage where she screams.all.day. Family said it’s not like that at home (although dcd did let it slip that at home they hold her nonstop to avoid her screaming fits).

she is refusing everything. Just screams and Throws toys because she’s obviously exhausted from screaming all day. It’s going on week 6 of one day or nonstop Fits and then it gets a little better (maybe only half day of fits but the screaming never stops).I already put a star on the calendar, but any tips? what made this Easy going, happy to play on her own, suddenly turn into a kid who screams nonstop because I am standing in a spot not in her direct vision? I’m exhausted and feel like I’ve tried everything.

[Blackcat31]

Can you put her down for a nap when she screams? Is she tired? Or just emotionally over loaded?

[Sahm121]

Can you put her down for a nap when she screams? Is she tired? Or just emotionally over loaded?

I’ve tried. Just screams. In the morning, there’s other kids playing so she’s hysterical that she’s missing out, but she’s so tired she can’t interact so all she does is scream. Then even during nap when it IS quiet, she screams because she doesn’t want to nap. Im at a loss of how I can get her to understand that screaming doesn’t get results, plus that she’s so tired she can’t play even when she wants to.
my guess is she’s overtired and stuck in a loop where she’s so tired she can’t sleep, so she’s even more tired. I don’t know how to reset it because even total silence here doesn’t help her sleep

[Blackcat31]

I’ve tried. Just screams. In the morning, there’s other kids playing so she’s hysterical that she’s missing out, but she’s so tired she can’t interact so all she does is scream. Then even during nap when it IS quiet, she screams because she doesn’t want to nap. Im at a loss of how I can get her to understand that screaming doesn’t get results, plus that she’s so tired she can’t play even when she wants to.
my guess is she’s overtired and stuck in a loop where she’s so tired she can’t sleep, so she’s even more tired. I don’t know how to reset it because even total silence here doesn’t help her sleep

Are the parents aware that you are at your wits end?
If you do not have a place to put her so she can just cry it out and perhaps sleep, I'd let the parents know you can't take the screaming any longer and the fact that they are just holding her so they can avoid the screaming isn't helping...it's probably making it worse as she is expecting you to handle it the same way as her parents do.

Ugh, this is tough because I totally understand how hard having a non-stop screaming child all day is.... I guess this is where you decide if it's worth dealing with and if it will pass soon or not.... It's either the phase passes or you lose your sanity... lol!

(((hugs))) dealing with this!

[Valerie928]

I'm so sorry this is happening. If her parents are holding her all the time then you are fighting a losing battle.

[flying_babyb]

Does she have a lovey? A blanket? So this isnt the ideal solution but it worked for me with a one-year-old SCREECHER, this kid was so loud the staff was wearing earplugs. So I decided when she screamed she went to a corner that was away from others but still in my line of site. She went on her sleeping bag with her blanket covering her (shes a blanket addict). if she got up crying she went back. After a few days we got to the point where she would cry then sit up and if asked join the group. When she would start up again, right back to the corner. We are now at the stage where blanket stays in the corner and gets sat on a few times a day. She no longer has to be asked, she just snuggles then runs off to play. YMMV!

[Pestle]

At that point, I might decide to say "She is unfortunately not able to participate in the program due to screaming that lasts most of the day and does not respond to typical interventions. I am not qualified to diagnose the cause of the screaming. If you are already doing everything you can at home to facilitate a sleeping schedule appropriate to her age, you might want to take her to her pediatrician to rule out pain/discomfort."

Because it might be parents who can't be bothered to adapt their schedule to having a child, or it might be a medical condition that everyone is ignoring. You can't fix either one of those.