Financial Infidelity

[Annalee]

OH MY GOODNESS!!!!! My DH just better NOT!!!!! He had his own checking account for all of 3 months but bounced 3 times so now ALL business matters are in my hands.....OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!🤨😖

[Cat Herder]

Thanks, everyone. I now recommend getting your spouse's credit report annually. That was the last sprig of faith and loyalty I had in this world. Not again.

[Cat Herder]

Thank you.

[Michael]

Doesn’t matter what the money is for. There is a trust factor that was not considered. I would have a major problem with it. A loan like that with the current rates could put a family’s finances under water. I would immediately open a personal account and move whatever money is shared into it. That loan burden is going to fall onto you also. Protect yourself.

[GirlMomma]

DH and I share finances - everything.

I would be pretty upset for the same reasons mentioned above: what is the reason for such a large loan, the sneaking around about it, not confiding in me beforehand etc.

[SandBox]

Really depends on what the loans are for and what our financial situation is like. If he made enough to cover the costs and it didn’t affect anything him and I had going on, I guess I wouldn’t really care. Unless it was for reasons that I really didn’t agree with.

The sneaking is a big issue too. Why did he think he needed to sneak it and what is he hiding? Other women? Gambling problem? Drugs? All of the above?

[Sparkles]

Well, of course I'd be upset he didn't discuss it with me beforehand and made such a big decision without me. My husband and I share bank accounts and all things financial (I know some couples who don't and have separate bank accounts), so a decision like that would affect both of us.

Another factor that may play a part is what it was for. That may make me go a little more one way or the other.

[Cat Herder]

What would you do if your spouse took out over 60,000 in loans without telling you?